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betrayedfriend (original poster member #19785) posted at 11:09 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
My dear stepmother's cancer is back and in her liver, she's having surgery dec. 9.
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 11:11 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
(((betrayedfriend)))
Sending my thoughts and prayers.
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 11:52 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
Sending positive thoughts and healing mojo to your stepmother.
(((Hugs)))
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:55 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
((((betrayedfriend, stepmother, & family)))) I'm so sorry, honey. Sending you all strength.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 1:49 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 2:54 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
(((((hugs and prayers)))))
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 5:08 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
(((betrayedfriend, stepmother, and family)))
Sending prayers and strength.
Crushed1 ( member #6449) posted at 5:31 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Prayers for your (((SM,family)))
~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 1:34 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
So much! I'm sorry, Friend. ((((HUGS)))
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
betrayedfriend (original poster member #19785) posted at 7:11 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Thanks guys. My step mom is the only reason I have a relationship with my dad. She's sweet and kind and gentle. She and my dad married in 2004, and I know that if we lose her, we'll lose my dad too. She has three kids of her own and 6 grand kids from her first marriage that would be lost without her.
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
Lostandpregnant ( member #41433) posted at 8:40 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 10:47 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Sending love and strength to you and your stepmom. 
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 2:05 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013
(betrayedfriend))) I'm so sorry :(
My brother battled liver cancer and outlived his prognosis nine times over. Depending on how aggressive your SM wants to be, there is hope for good quality of life for longer than many once thought possible.
PM if you ever need an ear or shoulder.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
betrayedfriend (original poster member #19785) posted at 6:43 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013
This will be her second surgery. The first one removed most of her stomach, pancreas, part of her liver and a good part of her intestine. She is in good spirits, but I'm so worried about her. I just saw her a few weeks ago when she and my dad drove up and surprised us by coming to my kids' birthday party. They live several states away from here. The reason I say that we'll lose my dad too, is because he's always been the type of person that if someone is out of sight, they are out of mind. It's not malicious, and we learned to cope with it many years ago ( my parents divorced when I was 6). So between that and the hatred my mom aimed at him, I never really had a chance to know him as a kid. My stepmom was appalled at the lack of relationship and immediately set about building bridges and encouraging Dad to be more active. It's not ideal but we are friendly and on good terms now. And Cathy has been the key reason that relationship exists. I love her and I hate that she's suffering and struggling even though she puts on a good front.
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
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