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Tripletrouble (original poster member #39169) posted at 11:38 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
Wow, 7 months and 5 days after I found the incriminating phone records, it is all over. I was a good wife. I am a great mom. I am smart, funny, loyal, kind, and generous*. I am good with money, and I have a respectable job in my field. We have two honors students teens that are well adjusted. He threw away this charmed life, his loving wife, the respect of his children, and more than half of his assets for some skanky whores. I hope he cries into his lonely pillow nightly and that his house reeks of shame and lies.
I tried R. He could not stop lying and raged against me. I am glad I tried though, because I will never have to wonder if I did the right thing, if I walked away too soon. It gave him four more months to show me how messed up he is.
Thanks for all the support, SI friends.
* footnote: I have bad hair days, get in bad moods, swear too much, and have some annoying habits 
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:41 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
Onward you go, triple!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Lola7 ( member #41195) posted at 11:47 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you!
caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
DIVORCED!
sunsetslost ( member #39885) posted at 11:53 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
Don't look back. Congrats!
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
MakingLemonade ( member #41143) posted at 12:49 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Your best years are ahead! Congrats!
Me: 40's; XBS Him: 40's; XWS/NPD/SA
D-day 1: 5/2007- A #1; 7/2007 A #1 continued-R
D-day 2: 3/2013 A #2/multi-ONSs; 4/2013 A #2 continues to present
D: 7/2013 (25 yrs together; days shy of 22nd anniversary-GOAL MET!)
Our kids: teen & tween
lifestoshort ( member #18442) posted at 12:55 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
congrats on your D. I hope it brings you some peace
Im 45. 1st H I left in 2001 after 3 kids. narcassist.
2nd exH had MANY affairs.FALSE R. cheats again. D 5/09. 2 kids. I got 100% custody. ex hasnt seen kids in 6 yrs.
2014 to now: dated highschool sweetheart. He cheated w 23 yr old & left.
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 2:14 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Congratulations.
It seems like many of these waywards were living charmed lives and threw it all away for trash.
The good news is that it mostly (with some dips) only goes up from here!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 2:30 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Congratulations!!! I love your post too! Enjoy your new beginning!
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 3:21 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Welcome to your new beginning!
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 3:30 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Congratulations on losing all of that useless weight! I think you'll be amazed to see what you can do without all of that wasted flesh holding you back.
jemimapd ( member #37895) posted at 3:32 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I could have written every word. I just know that you are going to thrive once the initial shock wears off. We put so much energy and focus into these men who are fundamentally absent, selfish and immature.
(((TripleTrouble)))
Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.
RavenWood ( member #39847) posted at 3:52 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Congratulations. I hope the future brings you happiness.
BS: Me (30s)
Status: Divorced Jan 2014.
DDay: May 2013
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 4:22 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
You have a great attitude, Trip. Congratulations!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 4:32 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
and have some annoying habits
Am I the only one thinking that I have a childish opinion of fidelity? Of course this is enough for an affair! 
I am so sorry TT. You deserve so much better! Congrats!
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 12:46 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
ChoosingHope ( member #33606) posted at 2:47 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I LOVE your post!!! Congratulations.
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 4:17 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Welcome to your new beginning!!!! I hope the future only holds good things for you and your children. (((HUGS)))
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 4:24 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Congrats! Welcome to the other side.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
jackfish ( member #40257) posted at 4:30 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
All the best there Triple!
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 5:06 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
bad hair days are a bitch!
I recommend a good afternoon at a nice salon to help with those
Congratulations
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
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