Member # 39169
| Posted: 5:38 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Wow, 7 months and 5 days after I found the incriminating phone records, it is all over. I was a good wife. I am a great mom. I am smart, funny, loyal, kind, and generous*. I am good with money, and I have a respectable job in my field. We have two honors students teens that are well adjusted. He threw away this charmed life, his loving wife, the respect of his children, and more than half of his assets for some skanky whores. I hope he cries into his lonely pillow nightly and that his house reeks of shame and lies.
I tried R. He could not stop lying and raged against me. I am glad I tried though, because I will never have to wonder if I did the right thing, if I walked away too soon. It gave him four more months to show me how messed up he is.
Thanks for all the support, SI friends.
* footnote: I have bad hair days, get in bad moods, swear too much, and have some annoying habits
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
Posts: 847 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 33226
| Posted: 5:41 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Onward you go, triple!
You can call me NIK
"The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it." - Brene Brown
Posts: 34468 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 41195
| Posted: 5:47 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you!
caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
Posts: 211 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 39885
| Posted: 5:53 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Don't look back. Congrats!
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
Posts: 799 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
Member # 41143
| Posted: 6:49 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Your best years are ahead! Congrats!
Me: 40's; XBS Him: 40's; XWS/NPD/SA
D-day 1: 5/2007- A #1; 7/2007 A #1 continued-R
D-day 2: 3/2013 A #2/multi-ONSs; 4/2013 A #2 continues to present
D: 7/2013 (25 yrs together; days shy of 22nd anniversary-GOAL MET!)
Our kids: teen & tween
Posts: 168 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southern US
Member # 18442
| Posted: 6:55 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
congrats on your D. I hope it brings you some peace
6/07 EX had MANY affairs.
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09 but still hurting from the after mass.
Posts: 760 | Registered: Mar 2008
Member # 34146
| Posted: 8:14 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
It seems like many of these waywards were living charmed lives and threw it all away for trash.
The good news is that it mostly (with some dips) only goes up from here!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Posts: 3871 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 37215
| Posted: 8:30 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Congratulations!!! I love your post too! Enjoy your new beginning!
I SURVIVED infidelity. Me 44, DD 20, DS 17
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."
Posts: 2792 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 34697
| Posted: 9:21 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Welcome to your new beginning!
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Posts: 4957 | Registered: Jan 2012
Member # 36697
| Posted: 9:30 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Congratulations on losing all of that useless weight! I think you'll be amazed to see what you can do without all of that wasted flesh holding you back.
Posts: 2600 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
Member # 37895
| Posted: 9:32 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
I could have written every word. I just know that you are going to thrive once the initial shock wears off. We put so much energy and focus into these men who are fundamentally absent, selfish and immature.
Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.
Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 39847
| Posted: 9:52 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Congratulations. I hope the future brings you happiness.
BS: Me (30s)
Status: Divorced Jan 2014.
DDay: May 2013
Posts: 67 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: RavenWood
Member # 38122
| Posted: 10:22 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
You have a great attitude, Trip. Congratulations!
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 12 and 15
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!
Posts: 2388 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 37455
| Posted: 10:32 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
BH 52, WW 43
DS 24(Mine),SD 22,SS 21(Hers),DS 10 Ours, DGS 4, DGD 15 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone
Posts: 4190 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 39139
| Posted: 6:46 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Me: BS 46
Posts: 864 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
Member # 33606
| Posted: 8:47 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
I LOVE your post!!! Congratulations.
Posts: 1771 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 36654
| Posted: 10:17 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Welcome to your new beginning!!!! I hope the future only holds good things for you and your children. (((HUGS)))
Me-53 XWH#2-54 NPD, alcoholic
M-11yrs T-12yrs LTA-5yrs D-8/11/15
11/28/14 "Assault with a deadly weapon" and is now with OW
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
Posts: 5681 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
Member # 32554
| Posted: 10:24 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Congrats! Welcome to the other side.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 40257
| Posted: 10:30 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
All the best there Triple!
Posts: 88 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 19258
| Posted: 11:06 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
bad hair days are a bitch!
I recommend a good afternoon at a nice salon to help with those
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Posts: 9295 | Registered: Apr 2008
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