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Topic: Today was our anniversary...

lisaloo
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Member # 20082

Posted: 9:03 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013

I foolishly thought (when I planned this family vacation/anniversary trip) that it would be our "lucky number 7" and the fact that we would be in the same place we honeymooned 7 years earlier, would be OH SO ROMANTIC...Ironic is a bit more like it, since I am here with DD and husband is wherever the hell he is living out his 7 year itch, drinking (which is a new one...), and hanging out with a whole new crowd. He hasn't spoken to me in about 2 weeks, so I didn't REALLY expect anything different to happen today, but there is that pitiful, sad, hopeful, glutton for punishment inside of me that kind of hoped there would be some amazing last minute, 3rd act finale that would be a game-changer for this marriage.

Wrong...but he did send me a text to tell me that he transferred 250 bucks into his new account to pay for gas and food.

I only have two things to say...

1) Thank God Disney sells wine by the bottle.
2) In exactly two hours, this f-ed up anniversary from hell will be history.

Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house separation...fun, fun, fun.

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL

purplejacket4
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Member # 34262

Posted: 9:16 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013

I am so sorry. I know you never thought seven years ago you'd be where you are today.

So sorry.

Hugs!

Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2473 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest

nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226

Posted: 9:20 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013

(((((lisaloo))))) I'm so sorry, lisa.

Know what? Screw him. Reclaim your trip, sweetie. Make it all about creating memories for your DD.

You can call me NIK

“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön

Posts: 28346 | Registered: Aug 2011

mandan66
♂ 40075
Member # 40075

Posted: 9:23 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013

Hang in there sister; your not alone in this one. We've all thought there would be some sort of last minute, I'd bet. Probably happens 1 out of every 1000 times.
The wine deal though---damn, that is what makes Disney awesome. Have a drink for me!

Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
M:18--T:19
DDay: Jan/13
Divorced and Done!--7/13

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: KS

gma56
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Member # 19595

Posted: 9:26 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013

(((lisaloo)))

It isn't suppose to be this way.
Do your best to get through and know tomorrow you will have survived and didn't put a hit out on his ass.

Big Hugs
Gma

BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20395 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..

HurtsButImOK
♀ 38865
Member # 38865

Posted: 11:32 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013

(((lisaloo)))

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia

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