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User Topic: Not checking my phone...
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got to post here because I have this ridiculously strong compulsive urge to check my phone for a response from ex-shat. But it's late. And I'm not. It's put away until tomorrow.

It's not my problem that he does shit last minute. It's not my problem that he cannot respond timely to my response to his text over three hours ago to work out a midweek visitation. Not my problem and it's not on me...so co-dependent Tesla, you reeeeeeeeeeeeeealllllly need to go chill out. Co-parenting business hours are over for the day. FTG.

And now you all know that I'm not going to check my phone, so if I do, I will have failed...and I really, really hate failing.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4734 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
h0peless
♂ 36697
Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are not a yoyo. He doesn't hold your string.

Posts: 1802 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is exactly what I needed to hear, hopeless, thank you!!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4734 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
h0peless
♂ 36697
Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Also, FTG. It's too bad he can't be more like my ex, slinking off into the self-created darkness never to be heard from again.

Posts: 1802 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Step away from the phone. Do not check the phone. The phone is bad juju right now.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1800 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know where you are tes, but in my world it's after 10pm. Most civilized peeps don't conduct business after 10pm. And we S/D peeps are civilized dammit!

Step away from the phone woman. It can wait.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3630 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
PurpleRose
♀ 33129
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know where you are tes, but in my world it's after 10pm. Most civilized peeps don't conduct business after 10pm. And we S/D peeps are civilized dammit!

Step away from the phone woman. It can wait.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3630 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
SBB
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Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it something material - that YOU need sorted out? If so it might be time to set a time for responses?

If it's just curiosity or idleness then I promise it gets better the more you practice.

I switch my mobile and home phones to silent at night when the girls are with me. My mum has a special ring tone and settings in case she needs me for an emergency. I have been smsing or emailing others when one of his missives come through but I generally don't read or respond to them at night

When he's going through an uber fuckwit stage I avoid phone/email at night altogether. It was hard at first but now it's second nature.

You can do this. I imagined him gorging on ego kibbles when I needed help with willpower.

Fuck......That..... Guy......


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5656 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phew! Made it!!
Ex-shat works midnights, so it's typical for messages to come in any time.
I wasn't waiting on anything from him...
I already have his texts set to silent but I will still check the phone...like I'm on constant alert...it's a bad habit, I really need to break it.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4734 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It takes time tesla. It just takes time to break those habits we have allowed to be conditioned into us.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2499 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
SBB
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! SL is right, like any bad habit these ones take a little time and practice to break. It does get easier.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5656 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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