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tesla posted 12/2/2013 21:58 PM

Got to post here because I have this ridiculously strong compulsive urge to check my phone for a response from ex-shat. But it's late. And I'm not. It's put away until tomorrow.

It's not my problem that he does shit last minute. It's not my problem that he cannot respond timely to my response to his text over three hours ago to work out a midweek visitation. Not my problem and it's not on me...so co-dependent Tesla, you reeeeeeeeeeeeeealllllly need to go chill out. Co-parenting business hours are over for the day. FTG.

And now you all know that I'm not going to check my phone, so if I do, I will have failed...and I really, really hate failing.

h0peless posted 12/2/2013 22:06 PM

You are not a yoyo. He doesn't hold your string.

tesla posted 12/2/2013 22:09 PM

That is exactly what I needed to hear, hopeless, thank you!!

h0peless posted 12/2/2013 22:11 PM

Also, FTG. It's too bad he can't be more like my ex, slinking off into the self-created darkness never to be heard from again.

IrishLass518 posted 12/2/2013 22:32 PM

Step away from the phone. Do not check the phone. The phone is bad juju right now.

PurpleRose posted 12/2/2013 22:38 PM

I don't know where you are tes, but in my world it's after 10pm. Most civilized peeps don't conduct business after 10pm. And we S/D peeps are civilized dammit!

Step away from the phone woman. It can wait.

PurpleRose posted 12/2/2013 22:38 PM

I don't know where you are tes, but in my world it's after 10pm. Most civilized peeps don't conduct business after 10pm. And we S/D peeps are civilized dammit!

Step away from the phone woman. It can wait.

SBB posted 12/3/2013 01:58 AM

Is it something material - that YOU need sorted out? If so it might be time to set a time for responses?

If it's just curiosity or idleness then I promise it gets better the more you practice.

I switch my mobile and home phones to silent at night when the girls are with me. My mum has a special ring tone and settings in case she needs me for an emergency. I have been smsing or emailing others when one of his missives come through but I generally don't read or respond to them at night

When he's going through an uber fuckwit stage I avoid phone/email at night altogether. It was hard at first but now it's second nature.

You can do this. I imagined him gorging on ego kibbles when I needed help with willpower.

Fuck......That..... Guy......

tesla posted 12/3/2013 06:08 AM

Phew! Made it!!
Ex-shat works midnights, so it's typical for messages to come in any time.
I wasn't waiting on anything from him...
I already have his texts set to silent but I will still check the phone...like I'm on constant alert...it's a bad habit, I really need to break it.

StillLivin posted 12/3/2013 12:35 PM

It takes time tesla. It just takes time to break those habits we have allowed to be conditioned into us.

SBB posted 12/3/2013 14:09 PM

Yay! SL is right, like any bad habit these ones take a little time and practice to break. It does get easier.

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