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sullymeishadomi posted 12/3/2013 05:44 AM

My friend, Stacy was my rock during the early days of the affair. When I was pregnant and stuck in the hospital for 6 weeks, she talked to me in the wee hours of the night (west coast to east coast), literally every night and make me laugh. Iremember her saying "girl, you just blew my wig off" when I said something that made her laugh or suprised her.

She is the reason my son was so fearless. Yep. All her fault. Why? Well, while pregnant, she said to me "your son is just like my nephew". When I asked what her nephew was like, she replied, "He jumped out of a second story window to see what it was like".

We met when I transfered to Hollywood H.S. in the 10th grade. In the 11th, I was in another school. I asked for an opportunity transfer for the 12th grade. Even tho we hung out in a group of 6, she was pretty much my only friend at hhs. We would go off campus together at lunch (our class was the last allowed off campus).

We lost touch after I moved to CO.

Thanks to a classmate site, we hooked up again

There is a street where I live that I hate. I remember pulling off to that side street to talk to stacey about spouse and his a. This was 5 yrs ago. Now instead of the street being tainted by memories of spouse, it holds sweet memories of stacy....it was yet another time she offered to send me a cast iron skillet to whack spouse upside the head with (and everyone of those skillets now in my house have always reminded me of stac and always will).

She kept her distance from me these last few years. She didnt totally push me away as she kept me as a fbf friend and once in awhile commented on my photo or post.

The other thing about stacy was during the affair, she did want me to leave him, but she made the situation about me. She made me laugh. She didnt get angry and say I should leave. She was different

Anyway...I tried several times to thank her for what she did for me during those years. I tried telling her how wonderful she was. I hope she understood.

Stacy, girl, I love you to pieces. I hope I can get my crap together to make you proud.

She went into the hospital with an infection. The meds sent her into a coma. They were going to operate on the infected part. Her heart gave out

She leaves behind her dog and many, many people who loved her.

Deeply Scared posted 12/3/2013 07:03 AM

(((Sully)))

I'm sorry you lost your friend

HFSSC posted 12/3/2013 07:05 AM

I'm so sorry. That's a huge loss. Prayers for her family and for you.

woundedwidow posted 12/3/2013 07:25 AM

I'm so sorry you lost your friend. (((Hugs))

Nature_Girl posted 12/3/2013 07:33 AM

I'm so sorry. ((((HUGS)))

tushnurse posted 12/3/2013 07:36 AM

(((Sully))))

That is a lovely tribute to a true friend. I am so sorry for your loss.

((((and peace and strength))))

Sad in AZ posted 12/3/2013 07:41 AM

I'm so sorry, sully. Carry those memories with you like a lamp in the darkness.

Lostandpregnant posted 12/3/2013 07:59 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss :(

gahurts posted 12/3/2013 08:06 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss sully.

simplydevastated posted 12/3/2013 08:25 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you (((HUGS))) and strength to get through this difficult time.

little turtle posted 12/3/2013 08:35 AM

((((sully))))

ajsmom posted 12/3/2013 09:13 AM

So sorry for your loss, sully.

My condolences.

AJ's MOM

stroppy_wanadoo posted 12/3/2013 09:32 AM

So, so sorry Sully. Loss of a good friend is incredibly hard... I even have found it more difficult than the loss of my beloved grandparents.

I lost my own Stacy (seriously - the same name) in August at age 40 to breast cancer. She was my best friend for 20+ years.

My thoughts will be with you during this difficult time. It sounds like you have some awesome memories of her... write them down. Doing so will give you comfort now, and you will enjoy them with a warm heart through the tears when you reread them in the future.

(((Sully)))

InnerLight posted 12/3/2013 11:07 AM

Wow. That must be such a shock! From an infection to a coma and out in a short time. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you had someone good in your life. ((((SM)))))

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 12/3/2013 11:07 AM

(((sully)))

lordhasaplan? posted 12/3/2013 13:58 PM

(((Sully)))

rachelc posted 12/3/2013 14:08 PM

((sully)) and so unexpected! I'm so sorry.

jrc1963 posted 12/3/2013 15:10 PM

I'm sorry for your loss.

Lyonesse posted 12/3/2013 15:19 PM

That was a wonderful tribute - I am so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace, Stacy.

ruby44 posted 12/3/2013 15:37 PM

What a rockin great friend. Hugs to you Sully. Hope that someday I can be a "stacy" to someone in need.
Just remember to pay it forward in her honor.