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sullymeishadomi (original poster member #16305) posted at 11:44 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
My friend, Stacy was my rock during the early days of the affair. When I was pregnant and stuck in the hospital for 6 weeks, she talked to me in the wee hours of the night (west coast to east coast), literally every night and make me laugh. Iremember her saying "girl, you just blew my wig off" when I said something that made her laugh or suprised her.
She is the reason my son was so fearless. Yep. All her fault. Why? Well, while pregnant, she said to me "your son is just like my nephew". When I asked what her nephew was like, she replied, "He jumped out of a second story window to see what it was like".
We met when I transfered to Hollywood H.S. in the 10th grade. In the 11th, I was in another school. I asked for an opportunity transfer for the 12th grade. Even tho we hung out in a group of 6, she was pretty much my only friend at hhs. We would go off campus together at lunch (our class was the last allowed off campus).
We lost touch after I moved to CO.
Thanks to a classmate site, we hooked up again
There is a street where I live that I hate. I remember pulling off to that side street to talk to stacey about spouse and his a. This was 5 yrs ago. Now instead of the street being tainted by memories of spouse, it holds sweet memories of stacy....it was yet another time she offered to send me a cast iron skillet to whack spouse upside the head with (and everyone of those skillets now in my house have always reminded me of stac and always will).
She kept her distance from me these last few years. She didnt totally push me away as she kept me as a fbf friend and once in awhile commented on my photo or post.
The other thing about stacy was during the affair, she did want me to leave him, but she made the situation about me. She made me laugh. She didnt get angry and say I should leave. She was different
Anyway...I tried several times to thank her for what she did for me during those years. I tried telling her how wonderful she was. I hope she understood.
Stacy, girl, I love you to pieces. I hope I can get my crap together to make you proud.
She went into the hospital with an infection. The meds sent her into a coma. They were going to operate on the infected part. Her heart gave out
She leaves behind her dog and many, many people who loved her.
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 1:03 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
(((Sully)))
I'm sorry you lost your friend 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 1:05 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I'm so sorry. That's a huge loss. Prayers for her family and for you.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
woundedwidow ( member #36869) posted at 1:25 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I'm so sorry you lost your friend. (((Hugs))
Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 1:33 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I'm so sorry. ((((HUGS)))
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:36 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
(((Sully))))
That is a lovely tribute to a true friend. I am so sorry for your loss.
((((and peace and strength))))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 1:41 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I'm so sorry, sully. Carry those memories with you like a lamp in the darkness.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Lostandpregnant ( member #41433) posted at 1:59 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I'm so sorry for your loss :(
He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 2:06 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I'm very sorry for your loss sully.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 2:25 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you (((HUGS))) and strength to get through this difficult time.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 2:35 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Failure is success if we learn from it.
ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 3:13 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
So sorry for your loss, sully.
My condolences.
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
stroppy_wanadoo ( member #11224) posted at 3:32 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
So, so sorry Sully. Loss of a good friend is incredibly hard... I even have found it more difficult than the loss of my beloved grandparents.
I lost my own Stacy (seriously - the same name) in August at age 40 to breast cancer. She was my best friend for 20+ years.
My thoughts will be with you during this difficult time. It sounds like you have some awesome memories of her... write them down. Doing so will give you comfort now, and you will enjoy them with a warm heart through the tears when you reread them in the future.
(((Sully)))
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 5:07 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Wow. That must be such a shock! From an infection to a coma and out in a short time. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you had someone good in your life. ((((SM)))))
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 5:07 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 7:58 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 8:08 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
((sully)) and so unexpected! I'm so sorry.
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 9:10 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 9:19 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
That was a wonderful tribute - I am so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace, Stacy.
ruby44 ( member #41135) posted at 9:37 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
What a rockin great friend. Hugs to you Sully. Hope that someday I can be a "stacy" to someone in need.
Just remember to pay it forward in her honor.
Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
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