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What the hell does serial philanderer XSO have to talk to me in person about? If he wants me to do some work for him, he usually just e-mails, calls or texts, but this time he said he is probably going back to live in his country of birth and needs to talk to me. Doesn't want to discuss over the phone.

Hmmmmmmm......

Let's have some fun speculating on what he wants to say, shall we?

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 9:38 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday)]

Why would you even entertain talking to him?

AJ's MOM

I've been talking to him (even doing writing/editing jobs for him) since about 2 years after we split. He's actually a good friend to have--just a horrible partner.

Probably trying to clear his conscious.

I'd say he's had plenty of time to do that over the last 10 or so years. In fact, he did tell me that he didn't treat me right. Just one sentence.......once. But he has shown in quite a few ways that he knows very well just how badly he acted with me. (Never mind that he's still doing the same things--albeit now to someone else.)

Is this some big farewell? Has he contracted a huge STD from one of his floozies and wants advice on how to proceed? (I arranged for a therapist when he freaked out after discovering his then-girlfriend in bed with her former boyfriend way back when.)

I'll find out tomorrow night. We're having dinner.

Edited to add: It would be nice if he wants to tell me that since he's leaving the country, I can have the house we built specially for me. His gift to me. Fat chance of that.

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 2:03 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday)]

My guess -- he wants something from you. What he wants would be too hard to guess, without knowing more...but I'll guess anyway. He wants to borrow money.

Ummm. No.

He wants to borrow money.

Not likely. He's probably worth twenty million. And the stock market hasn't crashed recently. Though it would be interesting (though uncharitable) to visualize him as a pauper!

Please update us!

Will do. He just called to confirm and I nonchalantly said, "That's good. Bye."

I did find out that he's going to Heffel's to deliver a painting for auction. Guess he doesn't want to cart heavy loads overseas. Or nomistakeaboutit is right about him needing money!

I'm curious to see if it's a painting I owned that I sold back to him after we split!

Knew he wanted something. He wants me to work on a second edition of a book I helped him with earlier. I cleaned it up editorially after a writer he hired did a piss-poor job.

So....no big secrets, no weird diseases, just an updated vanity project!

Making that book anything other than a puff piece would involve a full re-write. I told him so. Would I do it, he asks. Let's see. I have a full-time job, a part-time career as an artist, a house to run, two grandchildren I enjoy seeing, and A LIFE. That project would take a year of my time, i.e., a year trying to pin him down to approvals. Yeah. no. But I haven't told him that yet. Hee hee hee.

Bwahahaha.
Well, should have guessed it was his vanity. Him him him, right!
Enjoy those grandbabies this holiday season!

Well, should have guessed it was his vanity. Him him him, right!

Yep! Yep! Yep!

He's presently extolling the joys of no electricity, no roads living in Madagasgar, from whence he has just returned. As I may have mentioned before, he falls in love easily--whether it's with people, places or things!

I did learn the story behind the art auctioneer visit. He loaned $300,000 to an art dealer, who reneged on payment. XSO insisted on some of his inventory for payment and now he's stuck with a hundred paintings that will probably take a hundred years to sell!!!! I almost laughed out loud.

Oh, yes, I forgot to mention that he was speaking of a (female) former partner of a (male) mutual "friend" of ours. The friend had mentally abused and left this woman for another, after years of infidelity. So XSO says, "Yeah, x really traumatized y. She's a damaged girl." I just stared at him with my mouth open and replied, "Well, some of us are stronger than others." I honestly don't think he SEES that what he did with me is exactly what x did with y. Can he really be so freaking dense?