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WeepingBuddhist (original poster member #39139) posted at 4:20 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
whatever you got, send it my way, please? Meeting with STBX at 5 at the marriage counselor's and will inform him that he is a STBX.
I would hope after nearly 20 years together this all goes smoothly but then, his behavior the past year has been unfathomable to me.
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 4:24 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Rainbows ( member #39362) posted at 4:47 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Sending you light.
Hope it all flows smoothly with grace and ease.
There is always a rainbow after every storm.
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 5:19 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Good Luck
My dog killed a squirrel yesterday. I will provide a ceremonial tossing of it's entrails into the garbage on your behalf today.
The waiting must be tough!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Sparkles ( member #39901) posted at 5:33 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Good luck today. It's another step forward even if though it can be difficult. I hope this goes well for you. 
WeepingBuddhist (original poster member #39139) posted at 5:44 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Thanks, everyone. Blessed be your dog, Hex!
The next few hours are going to be difficult. I feel as though I'm just waiting for the rest of my life to begin. One of my friends is certain that this will be really hard for him while I'm pretty sure this will come as a relief. Who knows how he will react. I just know it's not going to be my problem.
[This message edited by WeepingBuddhist at 11:49 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday)]
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
atsenaotie ( member #27650) posted at 5:49 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I just know it's not going to be my problem.
^^^ This
Best wishes.
LTA FBS
dday 10.5.09
Divorced
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 5:59 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
((WB))
your screen name initials are the initials of two of my SI favorites WildBananas and Wondering Bull
The next few hours will be worth the wait. My feelings have often surprised me in similar situations during the whole process. Embrace whatever those feelings are...relief, sadness, anger...whatever. Just know that you made this decision with a clear head when you weren't overwhelmed by emotions. Fall back on that knowledge if it gets tough.
Don't be surprised to see, shock, anger and sadness all from him. Regardless...you are right...not your problem! Your paths have now diverged. You get to walk your own. He can stand at the intersection and stay as he is or he can choose to grow and take his own path ... either way, his is not yours any longer
Wishing you peace and contentment at the end of this.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
WeepingBuddhist (original poster member #39139) posted at 6:27 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
sounds like I am in good company!
I am feeling all those things. I'm sad, angry, hurt but mostly I am relieved. I thought I would be scared but no fear thus far and that surprises the hell out of me! Anxiety and I are besties, usually. Few decisions have ever felt so totally right.
Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 8:04 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
My dog killed a squirrel yesterday. I will provide a ceremonial tossing of it's entrails into the garbage on your behalf today.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 8:14 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
Sending you prayers and positive and clear energy. (((((WB)))))
Lostandpregnant ( member #41433) posted at 8:36 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I hope it goes as good as it possibly can <3
He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 9:08 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 9:28 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
That's a hard conversation. Sending you lots of good mojo and peace.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 11:58 PM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2013
hope it has gone or is going well. lots of good mojo for you now!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 12:25 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013
Sending prayers...don't know your time zone, so don't know if I missed it, if it's during, or WHAT!
Please update us when you have the opportunity....
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
soveryweary ( member #32265) posted at 1:45 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013
I hope everything turned out ok.....
Thinking of you.
Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 1:59 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013
Sending you mojo-- I hope that the one thing you feel is the lightness of freedom.
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 2:16 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013
I'll light a candle and send you peace. Good luck and may your path to freedom be blessed.
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 5:45 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013
Hoping it went well and you are out with a friend....
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
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