Does the pain of being alone get better?? I have two very small children. It's very difficult to take care of them, work, and support them on my own. I can do it, no doubt, but it's only been about a week and a half.
Any advice for this seperated newbie??
Please make him be responsible for his kids and set up a visitiation schedule now. It is unfair, and unhealthy for you to bear the parent burden alone continuously.
I never seperated but when the A was in full swing I was alone a lot more than not, and when he was there he was such an ass I didn't want to leave my kids with him. I told him at one point, at least divorced moms get a break once in awhile, I never do. The silence from him was palpable.
Anyway make sure he does some of the work with the kids. Also reach out to friends for support, and make sure you do one nice thing for you, and just you every day.
(((and strength)))
He's not off the hook financially or time wise. Make him stand up to his obligations.
You can do this. If you feel like you can't don't be afraid to ask for support from those of us here and in your daily life.
Be good to yourself. Take time to rest, eat and drink so you have energy to get things done.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
