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Marathonwaseasy posted 12/3/2013 14:59 PM

Me and fwh never did big Xmas present. Little thoughtful fun gifts were always us. Last Xmas I got given an iPad 3. I was very uncomfortable about it. Just didn't sit right
And of course my spider senses were right. It was bought from guilt as he was in the middle of the fun fuck buddy early A season. (It wasn't so much fun by the spring when he ended up admitted to hospital because the psychopathic slut drove him to a breakdown). But last Christmas he was the big man with his bit on the side.
After dday and the full disclosure I wanted rid of the guilt purchase. Today I did. The money will be spent on a spa voucher for my friend who drove me to the STI clinic, an upgrade to my SI membership and the family food budget for a week.
I'm so glad it's gone.
I still feel dirty though
How come she's the whore yet I am the one who ended up feeling bought?

knolls posted 12/3/2013 15:25 PM

I also got a guilt I pad. He was using his to communicate with his Ho. So I got one as he didn't want me snooping around on his. Well I'm keeping mine. Yes it's a trigger but I have to pick my trigger battles

Shattered-Heart posted 12/7/2013 17:13 PM

Good for you.
I got an iPhone and an electric bike.
I still HATE that bike, but chose to keep the phone.
Like you, the bike didn't sit right, but he was saying with his bonus he was getting toys (ha! understatement of the year) and I should get one too. He nearly insisted, so I did, and was happy to, but spidey senses seem to almost always be right, in retrospect. He still insists it wasn't a guilt present. It so was.
Good for you on getting rid of it and using the money for good stuff! You shouldn't feel dirty at all, you didn't do anything wrong!

Jesu posted 12/7/2013 18:23 PM

I bought my WSO an iPad for her birthday a couple of years back. After DDay I discovered that she used to chat with OM and play games on it with him. Even had his birthday added to the calendar to remind her.

Yeah I asked for it back and sold the fucker...bought myself a new iPad. Mini, which I'm using to post this...

sodamnlost posted 12/7/2013 19:24 PM

I got a guilt kindle fire I will be sending as a donation to SI to auction. Thanks for the reminder actually - I forgot.

Lostinthismess posted 12/7/2013 19:59 PM

Ha! I got a guilt iphone and suburban. Both are mine a little triggery, even after he swears it wasn't guilt. Whatevs.

Dreamland posted 12/7/2013 20:30 PM

OMG I also got my fWH an iPad two Christmases ago when he was in the A. He was so excited to show the whore. Apparently he forgot to tell her his wife gave it to him. Motherfucker. Last year I got him Zero. This year probably zero too.
Fucking bitch knew he was married but didn't ask him because it would ruin their moment. Ugh I hate them both. I can never seems to forget their messages.
Anyway now I use it for work. But I do hate it.

steadfast1973 posted 12/8/2013 07:05 AM

My cheap ass WH has been very generous with his wallet since DDay. I am ok with that. He spent a lot of money to pay the hooker, so... He needs to spend money on me, now. Years of, no that's too expensive and wait until we have more savings... You better beleive he's making sure i never wash a dish by hand again! I will finally gey my dishwasher!

Mack9512 posted 12/8/2013 07:39 AM

I got a new fence, a new sectional sofa and an iPad as consolation prizes my FWH's affair. He bought me all of those BEFORE taking thousands of dollars from our accounts. I got all of the new junk and no ability to pay the bills. I still want to get rid of the sofa but we are still recovering from his stupidity.

TheThreeYearFool posted 12/9/2013 09:25 AM

I got a guilt Kindle Fire, and a couple of guilt handbags including a genuine Kate Spade. There were also gifts of fancy shoes and encouraging me to buy fancier clothes.

I also inherited his fancy PC monitor when he got a huge new one... which I didn't know was a gift from OW until her parting shot email.

OW with her trust fund had an essentially limitless budget, so I think he felt some guilt seeing her with her expensive clothes, shoes, and handbags and me with my Target handbags and cheap shoes.

WH swears he bought me nothing out of guilt. Yeah right.

plainpain posted 12/9/2013 09:50 AM

I got a self-operating vacuum cleaner. So I could continue to 'sit around and do nothing', and still have clean floors.

My H wasn't in the guilt stage yet, as the A wasn't yet a PA. He was still looking for reasons to justify crushing the only human being who had ever completely loved and accepted him just as he is. Fat, lazy and 'let myself go' were rolling through his mind on a regular basis - even though none of those are/were remotely true. Sorry for not having 50 billion hours to sit around waxing, primping and painting swirlies on my nails.

steadfast1973 posted 12/9/2013 10:04 AM

OMG, PlainPain. EXACTLY.

sweetsteps posted 12/9/2013 10:47 AM

I got an IPAD for Valentines day....my WS hates Valentines Day this would be about 9 months after DDay...so pretty sure it was a guilt gift....I'm still keeping it though why punish myself out of my new toy

LostSamurai posted 12/9/2013 11:20 AM

I am was a huge gamer and movie buff. I am going through all the gifts she got me and getting rid of them. 2 years worth.

Marathonwaseasy posted 12/9/2013 11:48 AM

I'm quite happy with the post dday guilt gifts. It's the during the A "I will buy marathon off with this" iPad I wouldn't keep. Sold and money deposited in my account
Time to upgrade my SI membership

steadfast1973 posted 12/9/2013 17:22 PM

I barely got a smile while he chatting up the prostitute...

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