At least the life that I have is real.
Ah. What a great realization! Seriously. I do it too--there are days when I can get down & lament for what I thought I had...what could've been.
My life now is quiet, simple, uncomplicated. No one bothers me. I do my own thing. Very rarely anymore do I feel lonely.
I don't have children, a relationship nor a blended family. It's really just "me" (& my animals, of course!) right now.
I have the dreams too. Sometimes they're so real, they rock me for days. I do fantasize that it could've all been a dream, but I know better---we had more problems than just the A. The A was just the outcome.
But this totally sums it up for me: At least the life that I have is real now.