I didn't meet my Bear til I totally gave up on OLD and just lived my live to suit ME for about a year.
OLD was kind of fun - in a way - but it took up way too much of my time and I finally just gave up and decided to be ME, single, and live. Only then did a decent man appear in my life.
This was my experience. Loads of people have met someone great online. I met, and dated, some guys that are still my friends, but they weren't suited to mesh with MY life.
So....I'm not really a fan of OLD, but it does seem to work for some people. Luck of the draw!
ETA: I met the Bear shooting pool in pool tournaments at a biker bar. We competed against each other for months before he asked me out. It took a few more months before I agreed to go out with him. You never know when, or where, a good man will appear. I certainly didn't!Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.