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How important is it in working towards R? I've told him everything i can think of, and answered every question he has had, except for the ones i'm trying to work on figuring out myself. Though he hasn't asked for an official timeline, and actually said "why would i want one?", i made one anyway just in case. Just curious. he is making it seem as though what ive told him is enough. I'm keeping it anyway just in case he does one day want it

That's for your spouse to determine...for me, I NEEDED every little detail and date and time to heal after Dday 2...it's like someone had taken a part of my memories from me and without every single one of those details I couldnt fill in all the blanks in my memory.

He may not need it. I would kill for one.

It helps you also to recall things you think are unimportant... until he asks and you can't remember. It can sound demeaning or suspicious. Seal it in an envelope and label it "timeline". If he ever does need it; it will be available and not lead to another d-day of hidden stuff.