It's all a process, there are no quick fixes to get around it all. The only way through it is go through it.
I think it's really positive that you both talked in such detail about it...that's a very good sign
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
The early days royally suck. I remember them well.
I agree with DS. You have to go thru it, not around it. With time and hard work, it will lessen.