Also I have found texts before from girls but after getting back together from a week or two break up. Or so I thought..
I am so sorry that you are going through this.
Since you asked, I say you have wasted enough time on this man, and you need to get out while you can. Good for you moving out and getting your own place! Stick with your guns!
You are worth so much more than he is willing to give.
D-Day: Too many in 17 years of marriage. LAST time 10/17/2013.
You don't want to find yourself legal tangled with a person who is clearly showing you what he is. Trust me on this.
Don't waste any more of your life with this selfish pig. If he can do this now don't expect any limits if you marry and have a family.
This time should be wonderful for both of you but he has soiled that forever. There are good decent men out there.........
I know that you're smart enough not to believe that- because he's just blaming you for his actions which he clearly knows are wrong.
You should be so proud of yourself for leaving and getting another apartment. You've done what so many here wish they could do but its not easy when you've had years of marriage, finances and children. You're so lucky you don't have to deal with that too.
Make a clean break with him and let him play his games with someone else.
Marriage will not change him - his tears will not change - your tears will not change him. This is who he is - a liar and a cheater.
I know its hard right now and you love him and want to believe his tears, but something tells me that deep down in your heart and soul you know he isn't good enough for you.
If your best girlfriend came to you with this exact same story - what would your advice to her be?
You take good care of yourself - you're going to be just fine - soon you will look back on this and be happy that you got away from him.
In total I lost 38 pounds and lots of my beautiful long hair, couldn't eat or sleep, was put on anti-depressant medication and was having panic attacks and insomnia problems. I was a walking zombie for months. As you spend more time building a life it will only hurt more down the road if you have to part ways.
It sounds to me like he's not marriage material. I'm so sorry for your pain.
I've been just where you are. He sounds like a serial cheater (he cheated on his ex, too?), so I doubt he will change. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Do your best to try and forget about him. When it happened to me, I couldn't eat or sleep, either…I drank lots of juice to keep up my strength, and I got some over-the-counter herbal things to help me sleep. When you find out, it really is like someone died; to you, the man he was is dead. Stay strong - we're rooting for you!
ETA - Make sure you take care of yourself. Do some things to take your mind off of this. Go see a movie. Get a massage. Visit with a trusted friend.
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It is like a kick in the gut to realize that the person you loved and trusted is totally messed up. It hurts so bad that sometimes you can't think straight. But you are on the right track for sure, and should be proud of yourself.
Fear of losing a relationship does not keep people from cheating. Neither do feelings of love. So, it doesn't matter how much he cries and can't live without you. Since he's not an emotionally healthy person, he is going to keep cheating.
When a MAN tells and shows you what he IS: Listen very carefully...and WATCH him very carefully and believe what HE is telling and showing you: That he is a deceitful liar and cheater!
Then carefully listen to what OTHER PEOPLE are telling you about him...like his Ex-wife and this woman you called on the phone: Both of these women verified that HE is a disrepectful, deceitful MAN...who cheats behind your back..and who talks about you behind your back.
You do not need a MAN like this in your life.
You deserve a MAN who loves and respects you.
I'm sincerely sorr for the pain you're going through...
Think back carefully to WHY you've broken up with this guy so many times - and REMEMBER: You deserve so much better!
I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.