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User Topic: lies,lies and more lies!!
♀ 41396
Member # 41396
Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

after a month of trying to recover from WH A and going through what i thought was full disclosure, now i find out there was a ONS that he did not disclose about 10 years ago. what part of FULL disclosure is confusing??? i have offered the gift of reconciliation and forgiveness and i get spat on with lies. now i am back to square one all over again.

Me-BS 37
Him-WS 42
Married/together for 20 years
2 kids
exiting the freak show

Posts: 84 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
♀ 39439
Member # 39439
Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome to the world of TT's. It happens all the time. My WS TT'd me for months. He says it's because he was afraid if I knew it all, I'd kick him out. He also didn't want to hurt me any more. Even though I begged and pleaded with him and tried to explain that the lies would be multiple wounds on tops of everything else, he still lied. I'm not even sure I know everything now. Remember, he cheated - he lied. It's not going to be easy. They are afraid. Grown men - afraid. Not what we'd expect, but it's the only truth out there that you know for sure. Be patient and expect a lot more to come out over the next few weeks maybe even months. Only a handful of WS will come clean right away. Sad but true.

And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1878 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
♀ 41507
Member # 41507
Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WBF claims he has told me everything - but honestly, there is never any way we know they have told us everything. I'm so sorry. Hugs.

Me: BGF 38F
Him: WBF 33M
Together for 5.9 years (4/5/08)
PA - Oct. 16, 17, 18, 2013 (business training out of state)
EA - Oct. 14 - Nov. 22, 2013 (same Woman)
D-DAY ~ Nov 22, 2013 (I found emails & confronted).
Working toward Reconciliation

Posts: 61 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Tennessee
Topic Posts: 3

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