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TheRealDeal posted 12/5/2013 13:53 PM

the writing was on the wall. I held out hope. I really thought we'd make it. I know in my heart I did everything I could, but after 18 years, its over. poof, just like that. we talked again last night and he decided he definitely wants out. so I'm letting him go

my heart is breaking. I know I'll make it, I've only grown stronger since May, but it sure hurts like hell to hear those words "it's over"

so I'm now down in D/S forum. no need to be in general or reconciliation any longer.

PhoenixRising88 posted 12/5/2013 13:54 PM

(((((RealDeal))))

nowiknow23 posted 12/5/2013 13:54 PM

Aw, honey. ((((realdeal)))) You'll find a lot of great support here. We've got you.

HurtsButImOK posted 12/5/2013 14:08 PM

((TheRealDeal))

The death of hope is very painful, be gentle with yourself and allow yourself time to grieve and mourn.

(((TheRealDeal)))

WeepingBuddhist posted 12/5/2013 14:49 PM

(((realdeal)))

it's going to be hard but you can do it.

careerlady posted 12/5/2013 15:11 PM

((Realdeal)) I have recently started off in the divorce process. We'll get through this together

msk99 posted 12/5/2013 15:15 PM

((Realdeal))

Lostandpregnant posted 12/5/2013 15:16 PM

Hugs. I'm so sorry.

whatdoto posted 12/5/2013 15:17 PM

((Therealdeal))

You will be OK. Really. I was married 17 years and poof! all gone. I've only been divorced 2 months. Take one day at a time and be good to yourself.

Hugs

StillLivin posted 12/5/2013 15:27 PM

(((TheRealDeal)))

gypsybird87 posted 12/5/2013 17:40 PM

((the realdeal))

So sorry you find yourself here, but you are in good company. This is great group, always ready with advice and support, or just a virtual hug.

You'll be okay.

Nature_Girl posted 12/5/2013 18:35 PM

I'm sorry, Honey. We'll walk with you. You're not alone.

Pass posted 12/5/2013 21:21 PM

I remember making the move from Reconciliation to this forum. Fucking hated it. Then within two weeks I felt on top of the world; I loved my newfound freedom!

Then I spent the next couple months crying and drinking and crying. It's not easy, but it can be done. Every few weeks I notice how much stronger I am than I was before.

There are some great people on here. Listen to them, accept their advice, accept their hugs. You'll get stronger too.

Everyone does.

tryingagain74 posted 12/5/2013 22:05 PM

Sorry, TRD. We've got your back.

Lyonesse posted 12/5/2013 22:12 PM

I'm sorry, TRD. D/S is a hard place to be, but I often look at the stories in New Beginnings, and some of them are awesome!

Wish I could send more comfort, but I know you'll get lots of advice and understanding in this forum.

gonnabe2016 posted 12/5/2013 22:13 PM

TRD, you've gotten lots of hugs already so I'm going to offer you some practical advice.....
Shield.Up.
Focus on YOURSELF and what YOU deserve because I'll almost guarantee you that your WH's "I'm done" proclamation is going to be followed by some type of Hoover-maneuver on his part in the not-so-distant future.

And {{{{TRD}}}} (because that shit hurts). I'm so sorry.

shiloe posted 12/5/2013 22:32 PM

I am so sorry to hear that.

Hated that I had to move to D/S too. 26yrs. flushed.

However, I made up my mind, I would rather be alone than be with a unrepentant cheater.

Time. It is going to take time.

Slow down. Take care of you.

It is what it is. Life is just plain hard sometimes and loyal, faithful spouses get the sh*t end of the stick.

But, cheaters sometime get what they deserve.

Prepare for a long hard battle.