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I am still hoping to R, but it isn't looking good at the moment, and I'm finding myself reading through sample separation agreements online and feeling overwhelmed, wondering -- what do I need to have in mine? Shortly after D-Day, we discussed that if worst came to worst, that we would keep lawyers out of it and do it ourselves. So what do I need to make sure is in there to protect myself and DD?

For example -- I know DD wants it added that WH can't bring OW (the one from affair or others) around her. How do I word that?

What are you so thankful you have in your S/D agreement? What do you wish you had?

Spell out any temporary support issues. Make sure neither of you can create more marital debt. Draw out some custody/visitation senarios too. Most importantly, make sure you have a provision for making mutually agreed changes to the agreement. That way you don't have to run back to the lawyer everytime you need to work something out. Good luck.