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User Topic: What do I need in a separation agreement?
♀ 37657
Member # 37657
Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am still hoping to R, but it isn't looking good at the moment, and I'm finding myself reading through sample separation agreements online and feeling overwhelmed, wondering -- what do I need to have in mine? Shortly after D-Day, we discussed that if worst came to worst, that we would keep lawyers out of it and do it ourselves. So what do I need to make sure is in there to protect myself and DD?

For example -- I know DD wants it added that WH can't bring OW (the one from affair or others) around her. How do I word that?

What are you so thankful you have in your S/D agreement? What do you wish you had?

Me, BS 43
Him WH 43 - LTA, EA/PA
Together 25 years
DD14 - the love of my life

DDay#1 11/10/2012
DDay#4 4/5/2013 (NC broken AGAIN)
DDay#5 10/8/14 - caught him reading an "old" email from OW.

D seems like the only option.

Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2012
♀ 40115
Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Spell out any temporary support issues. Make sure neither of you can create more marital debt. Draw out some custody/visitation senarios too. Most importantly, make sure you have a provision for making mutually agreed changes to the agreement. That way you don't have to run back to the lawyer everytime you need to work something out. Good luck.

One day
I'm gonna forget your name,
And one sweet day,
you're gonna drown in my lost pain. - "Sweet Sacrifice" by Evanescence

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Posts: 3391 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
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