I do not miss his longgggg, scalding hot showers that left me with a luke-warm shower every day.
I do not miss his wet bath towel left lying on the bed.
I do not miss his daily clothing drama and proclamations of being too fat for his clothes.
I do not miss that venom being turned on me because whatever item he wanted/needed/could fit his fat ass into was sure to be the one thing I hadn't washed for him.
I do not miss him yelling at his son every morning.
I do not miss glancing at his hand and seeing that yet again, his wedding ring was missing.
And I do not miss being forced to start every day with the depressing local news. Crime, car accident, school budget cuts, political scandal, and don't forget the required daily dose of animal cruelty.... I HATE the local news. XWH knew this but did not care. He wanted the news, so the news was on. Period.
I realized I literally have not watched a single newscast in the 8 months he's been gone. *insert contented sigh here*
This morning wasn't any different from those that have come before it since D-day (well, the Christmas tree is new, lol). What changed was my perspective. I hope this is the beginning of a positive trend.
Wishing all of you peaceful-not-lonely mornings.
[This message edited by gypsybird87 at 5:57 PM, December 5th (Thursday)]
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin
1. Yes, no depressing news blasting out at high volume all the *&$@ing time
2. Making a wreath tonight with my daughter without him interrupting us wanting to know what was for dinner/where are his slippers/did I do x, y, z for him today?
3. Calm during dinner without his phone buzzing and vibrating across the table. Now we have Christmas music and I mute my phone
4. A complete change in our menu. Out goes spaghetti. In comes salmon. We love it.
5. Not doing his disgusting laundry
6. No cigarette smoke drifting inside. Or filling the downstairs bathroom.
7. Half the grocery bill I had before
8. A new peace, energy and lightness. Truly, he sucked the joy out of the air. Priceless.
When I feel lonely, honestly, it's because I'm missing my kids. I hate that they have to spend a part of their young lives without me when they should be growing up in a home with two loving parents, not ping-ponging between one loving parent and two selfish people who care more about Ziploc bags than having clean underwear on hand for the kids.
But... I look at the bright side. I'm an introvert, and I benefit from long stretches of quiet, alone time. Having that to a greater degree in my life has been amazing.
Here's to peace AND quiet. They are highly underrated and need to be embraced far more in our culture than they currently are!
I'm enjoying my fireplace, tea lights and a nice whiskey before dinner tonight. The power went out three times in an hour and I didn't care.
Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live.
~ My absolute favorite is that the kids and I are not walking on eggshells.
~ My second absolute favorite is peace. Peace in me and peace in my home.
I absolutely love my life! (I would love it more if I were divorced which is the only thing I am asking for from Santa!!)
I do not miss hearing hundreds of lies.
I do not miss his bad gas! LOL
I do not miss his mood swings.
I do not miss him not listening to me or remembering anything I said. I always felt so insignificant when he did this.
I am learning a new way of life and I finding my new me!!! I LOVE IT!
No more sports 24/7
Less than half the laundry
Less than half the food bill
No more interruptions between DD and me
No more crap around the house
No more insane electric bill with every light on in the house
No more lies
No more cheating
I'm so ready for 2014.