No, not "our" anniversary. The anniversary of my BH and the OW's first physical contact.
So, tomorrow is the one year anniversary of the day that BH and OW (who is his employee) started their physical contact. I know this detail because I was journaling at the time and wrote about the event that kept them at work late. It started with kissing, hugging (I'm sure groping) and then they'd call it off (guilt), then they'd start again.....and the cycle repeated until October when she gave him a bj. He called it off and I "caught" her angry resentful text about it.
Confrontation, me to IC, he's to IC, but no MC yet.
How do I possibly control my anger and sadness at this trigger? I have been so sad and angry. I feel that I will EXPLODE thinking about this (and mind movies). BH and I have discussed this and he says he knows from his counselor that he will have to "take" this from me.
He is trying, but I can't stop the incredible anger and sadness. Are there better ways to deal with these triggers?
I am not only mad about the PA, but I had my suspicions, asked him whether he was having inappropriate contact with a coworker, and he denied it. Then got angry with me for accusing him.
So first the affair, then the lie, then turning his anger toward me. Three times betrayed.