So, we had MC session for tomorrow. WH felt like 50 min sessions weren't useful enough..."just picks open sores without solving anything", so we had arranged 2hr sessions as of last meeting and it went better.
Message on MC answering service when I call to confirm tomorrow's session..." We are closed till jan 2, 2014 due to unforeseen circumstances, w appreciate your understanding"
WTH! WH memory doesn't allow him to know exact date, but " early December was when texting "relationship" with OW became physical. Ie he soberly drove to her house after work and had sex with her.
This week WH had really bad day at work wednesday. He is good at his job and not used to not getting his way, personally or professionally...
Wed night was his night to cook (rare event). When I found out he lost 2 hearings., I volunteered to make dinner AND told him to go get a drink with his (male) client. He repaid me by coming home almost an hour after I told him I would have dinner ready and doesn't understand why it matters.
Really, on the (approximate) anniversary of you $&%#ing someone else, you stay out later than expected without texting me you've been detained, when I'm already handling responsibilities you've promised to cover ( we both have full time professional jobs)
And now I have no MC to help me communicate to him WHY this is a big deal?
Feeling really alone and defeated tonight. It was our 3rd try at MC and I finally felt like we had a good fit.
(Edited for drunk typos)
[This message edited by spinning73 at 9:15 PM, December 5th (Thursday)]
me-BS 41
WH-42
Together 23 years, married 17 years
DDs-11 and 8, DS 7
4 month EA/PA ended by WH 2 months before
DD-4/14/13
Hoping this recovery is real...