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stunnedin12 posted 12/6/2013 08:41 AM

is MY definition of "Love"? I told him I needed to have time to think on that - he is supposed to be getting back to me with his definition.

So?

My first post in reconciliation and I need to post and run since dd has an appt.

I do know that I do not love wh in the sense of 'hearts and flowers'. But, that question has me floored. What is love?

I feel like I'm back in jr. high.

Otoh, it's good that we are talking future instead of ending our marriage.

musiclovingmom posted 12/6/2013 08:58 AM

My H and I are actually going to start doing this. We're calling it 'word of the week'. Each week we are going to pick an emotion or relationship word. On the first day, we're going to take 20 mins to individually reflect on what that word means to us, then get together and discuss. Over the rest of the week, we're gonna think about it when we can and jot down anything we want to change/add. We're trying it out as a way to learn about ourselves and each other and build our relationship. Also, serves as a good way to transition us into meaningful conversation that isn't about the A.

TheAmazingWondertwin posted 12/6/2013 09:54 AM

Thanks MLM- that is a great idea and I think I will steal it from you!
In my work we all it "operational definition"- we need to all e on the same page when we use these words So that all parties are clear on what we are talking about.

stunnedin12 posted 12/6/2013 13:01 PM

Musiclovingmom-

I just might bring that idea up to wh