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User Topic: Gift Help
Chria
♂ 14090
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Frustrated  Posted: 9:44 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been off of SI for awhile ( ), but I know I can count on all of you when I am in a real bind.

My girlfriend and I have been going strong for 5 years now!! However, I have no idea what to get her for Xmas. For starters, she is a successful professional....makes good money, no kids, owns her condo, etc. So she is always tough to buy for. Last year, I got her SCUBA diving lessons (which she loved ).

She has tons of jewelry so that is out of the question; as is most household and kitchen stuff (she already has everything).

HELP!!!!


The odds are greatly against you being immensely smarter than everyone else in the field. If your analysis says your terminal velocity is twice the speed of light, the chances are better that you've screwed up than you've invented warp drive.

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CHRIA!!!!!

How about a trip to a place she can show off those SCUBA skills?

Good to see you!

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Newlease
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Treat her to a day at the spa. I don't know any woman who wouldn't appreciate that!

NL


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A spa day sounds like a wonderful idea.

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Scuba trip. New beach bag, new beach towel, pretty sandals (if you know her size) and 2 tickets in the bag.

Underwater camera


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 7927 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SCUBA Trip!!!!

If that's out of the question, then a spa day is always good.

I also am always happy to get a high end quality leather bag.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 16 & 18
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

Posts: 11899 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Scuba trip. New beach bag, new beach towel, pretty sandals (if you know her size) and 2 tickets in the bag.

great idea!

have you asked her what she wants?


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

or if experience gifts are a hit with her... what about a parachute jump?

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what area you're in, but a hot air balloon trip (perhaps over wine country) is an absolutely fantastic way to spend a day!


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I vote for the scuba trip too


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Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011


Posts: 24169 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Southern New Mexico
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't like heights, but the hot air balloon ride would still e swoon worthy to me


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Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 7927 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Chria
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great ideas...but let me explain why this is so hard this year:

1) We just went on a Scuba trip (St. Lucia!). Since we just came back, we self-imposed a $200 spending limit for Xmas...so a trip is out of the question.

2) She does her own spa treatments once a month.

3) I am 6'6" tall...and let's just say that I am too large for a hot air balloon.

C'mon. You all had some good ideas there (even if I did shoot them down). Keep 'em coming....


The odds are greatly against you being immensely smarter than everyone else in the field. If your analysis says your terminal velocity is twice the speed of light, the chances are better that you've screwed up than you've invented warp drive.

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chria!!!

What about a stain glass class? They have them here at Hobby Lobby. Like 6 classes for $200.00 and it's all hands on. You actually make your own piece of art Who knows...she may really like it!!


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hmmmm.... would a charitable gift be something she is interested in? Maybe give $150 to a cause shes passionate about, and then a token gift from you (some great coffee, wine, etc)

A bottle of wine or good liquor? Something that is meaningful to you guys (like, a bottle of wine from the year she was born?)

A trip to a vineyard/ a wine tasting

lingerie?

its hard when you have everything you want/need! But that's a good problem to have


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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can bust the budget a little bit and get a new hand bag.

Or some very nice perfume, paired with something else.

Did you buy all your own gear? I was thinking a regulator but that is more than $200. But maybe something else?

Cashmere sweater

A personalized phone cover?

Books? Magazine subscriptions? A down payment for a trip to Paris?


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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ascian
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does the have a Pinterest account? That's been my go-to for ideas on my wife lately.


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Her - FWW 38
D-Day: 8/13
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Posts: 363 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cooking class
painting class
tickets to a show
tickets to a concert


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have a great picture of something or the two of you in St Lucia? If so, get it put on canvas and framed. Can do for under $200.

I would do something sentimental related to that trip to show her it was special for you as well.

Maybe recreate a dinner that you had there, complete with a kiddie pool, sand on your patio, fake palm tree and then a photo book, or pic on a mug, or a locket with a picture that means something to the 2 of you. See a sea turtle or a seahorse?

Does she have a pandora bracelet, if so a related charm.

$200 is a good amount if it is used in a romantic gesture.

If she likes to cook, a seafood cookbook, some specialty ingredients, maybe a class in making sushi or something.
Maybe a gift certificate for a private chef to come cook for her and friends or for the 2 of you.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 7927 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A class of some sort together. Some areas offer cooking classes for couples that would be a lot of fun.

Can't do a hot air balloon rode for $200 around here anymore so even of you werent so dang tall I'm not sure that's an option.

How about hiring a service for something she dreads like housekeeping or laundry?


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 16 & 18
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

Posts: 11899 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Flowerforme
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice pair of sexy boots or a purse. If she likes those things..you can never have enough shoes/boots and handbags!


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