How do you manage that? I am strong that I don't want kids to suffer ... there aren't car pools available. Do kids just learn to have to be early and/or late to respective sports? Have you found a way to cooperate with the Ex with driving on some nights?
Looking for those with experience... thanks.
How do you manage that?
I am strong that I don't want kids to suffer ...
there aren't car pools available. Do kids just learn to have to be early and/or late to respective sports?
Have you found a way to cooperate with the Ex with driving on some nights?
I hope it will be cooperative for you. I just caution you to be thinking ahead for the possibility that the cooperation may end at any point.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
I enlisted grandparents and friends or teammates' parents when I was pulled 2 different directions. I hated missing anything, but I couldn't be in 2 places at one time.
It will be ok. You will learn a new normal.
newlease, I think 'new normal" is the right phrase. I will get there - I guess like anyone in recovery - it is one day at a time.
tryingagain, thanks for your thoughts also.
I tend to get ahead of myself - trying to project to the end result all the time. I need to breathe and understand it is literally one day, then one week, then one month.
Once kids got in high school and the schedules could be nuts, I would hire a HS senior to drive my kids. Worked great because HS kids are desperate for gas money!
Ironically, one of the things I've thought about is if I moved that I would move walking distance to the schools (they are on a "campus") so it would make the school pickup vs. bus issue much easier.
This makes a huge difference when most of the activities are at school. I made a point when we just moved to be in walking distance to the two schools the kids would attend for the next seven years. It has made things tremendously easier. When the oldest starts high school, THEN I have to figure out how to drive her until she's old enough to drive, but it will only be one school. But they have activities outside of school, and THAT is what makes it hard. I try to consolidate, have them in things close to each other, but it doesn't always work out.
I love the idea of hiring someone to drive short term. Usually it is only for a season when you have situations where you need to be two places at once, and that makes total sense.