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Does anyone ever fantasize about getting back with ex? I do, then I think how disgusting he is and all the horrible, horrible things he did to me for so long. Then, poof, that fantasy is over. I guess we will always miss the good times, the warm thought, the good memories of why we were with them in the first place...Feeling nostalgic today because of the holidays, I guess. Too bad, he messed up so bad or else he'd have his loyal little wifie and great kids, still. Too bad for him. I actually pity the fool!! lol.

No, it's not ever anything I've ever given thought too. Once I was done, I was done. And to be honest, I don't remember the good times. I know we had some, but the bad times completely overshadowed them so that's all I remember from my time with him.

I did at one point, even wrote out a list of R requirements. It was helpful as I knew he was incapable of meeting them. Re-affirmed to me that there is no going back.

What nature_girl said!!

The nostalgic naive girl who married her HS boyfriend will always wonder what if. The grown up who had her hearth broken into a million piece won't ever allowed her mind to wonder nonsense

Does anyone ever fantasize about getting back with ex?

What?

-t2g

nope.

I had the opportunity to reconcile post D and decided against it. He is in my (romantic) past now. No regrets.

Once we separated for the last time, nope, not even once.

NO WAY IN HELL.

Never, never, ever. I gave him too many chances to become a better person and do the right thing and he never did. Won't even acknowledge he has done anything wrong.

Once I was done, I was done. And to be honest, I don't remember the good times. I know we had some, but the bad times completely overshadowed them so that's all I remember from my time with him.

The bad went on so long, I really can't remember much else anymore.

Yes I did. I gave him the offer to reconcile if he got anger management, stopped the drinking and some other stuff. He led me on for months thinking he really wanted to work it out but at the same time telling everyone he was divorcing me cause "I didn't like his music or his friends". Once I heard that shit from people I got royally pissed and made a lovely fb post stating "stop lying about your wife and admit to the 5 women you cheated with". I left it up for roughly 9 hours. I had no idea that all of his friends could see it (I am so fb illiterate), I just thought he would see it. Man was he pissed off cause I told the world he wasn't "Mr. Wonderful".

Now when I get nostalgic and think of the marriage I remind myself of the emotional, verbal and darn near physical abuse that I put up with and I slap myself back to reality. I don't even know the man he is now but I don't like him and would rather spend life alone than tolerating all his npd crap.

Make a list of all the reasons why you left him/her and put it up on your fridge. When you get lonely or sad.. go and read it and you will see why you are so much better off without the cheater. You deserve better, you deserve love, you deserve happiness and you deserve peace.

I gave XH a final chance several months after we divorced. We lasted a year before I found out he had recently gotten back together with OW...I knew he had kept in touch with her throughout the year, but I had high hopes that he was done seeing her. After that, that was the end of it for me.

Hah! No freakin' way.

I fantasize now and then of kicking him to the curb the first year of marriage. I astound myself with how naive I was.

Omg! I actually opened up this forum because I thought it was more on the lines of "do you ever think of getting back... at him", lol!

I have thought of getting a couple of crack heads or someone to just rob and maybe just beat the shit out if him. Not kill him that's probably what he wants! Just kind of brake a few bones ya know. I know this sounds sick but it's just what I thought this was about.

Nope -- any fantasies revolve around listening to my gut way early on and dating one of the other guys interested in me at the same time I chose XWH (college, so more options then.) I loved being married, and think about how much better it would have been had I chosen to marry a good man.

Oh NO! That ship sailed a long time ago. Nothing could make me go there again.

Got2Go---I checked this post thinking the same thing you were---hilarious! Although I don't think I would go so far as paying some crack heads to settle things. Maybe just put her in one of those stock things like they did in medieval times, in the middle of the town square. For like a week or so.

On a side note, I'd swallow 10 gallons of melted glass before I'd hook up with my loser X again.

I am still going through the divorce process but yes at times. I think part of my feelings come from the fact that I didn't have a even a chance at R, he was already gone before I even knew what was happening. Some days I wonder if in a few years we could get back together. Then reality hits and I realize I don't want someone like that, a lier and cheater who will hurt the one person who loved him unconditionally. I know I am still healing. One day I will be like many of you and my answer will be Hell NO everyday instead of every few days.