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Lostandpregnant posted 12/7/2013 08:02 AM

I'm having a lot of anxiety, and not doing so well.
I'm going to call the midwife and see if I should head in.

I'm a mess today, and haven't slept yet from last night.

Hrtbrken1 posted 12/7/2013 08:04 AM

Sending you strength and hugs.

Gotmegood posted 12/7/2013 08:05 AM

Question: sending for your midwife because you might be in labor? Or is your midwife part of your support system? When is your due date?

Lostandpregnant posted 12/7/2013 08:16 AM

Calling her just to see if she wants to check on the babies, because I'm feeling so crappy.

I'm 5.5 months pregnant.

mof2 posted 12/7/2013 08:17 AM

(((((((Lost)))))))). When are you due???

Lostandpregnant posted 12/7/2013 08:18 AM

March. I'm at high risk for preterm labour with the twins, so it's a constant monitored situation. That's why this whole thing has been even harder than it normally would be (being cheated on and left).

devasted30 posted 12/7/2013 08:22 AM

Sending you my strength. Holding on as tightly as I can. I'm routing for you. Hang in there.
(((((HUGS)))))

mof2 posted 12/7/2013 08:24 AM

Sorry, we posted at the same time. Breathe. Focus on your beautiful children and those babies. They are what is important. Not him! My husband left me a week before I was due to give birth to a baby I miscarried months earlier and I was crushed. I cannot imagine how you are feeling. Keep coming here....great support. Your H is bat sh@t crazy douche bag.

solus sto posted 12/7/2013 08:30 AM

Millions of hugs to you.

myowndystopia posted 12/7/2013 08:50 AM

Strength and hugs to you. It's so crappy how days are unpredictable!

Momof2under2 posted 12/7/2013 10:25 AM

Keep yourself focused on your children. Breathe. And gain your strength from them!! (((Hugs))))

Lola7 posted 12/7/2013 10:31 AM

I hope you're doing ok. PM me if you need to. I think about you every day.

Lyonesse posted 12/7/2013 10:32 AM

Yes, call the midwife for support. Garner whatever support you can. You need it and anyone with half a brain and heart would want to give it to you. Does the midwife know the extra pressure you are under? She should. She will be more likely to take your concerns seriously rather than brush them off as pre-delivery jitters if she knows you are under real psychological and physiological stress.

And always, you have our support and strength.

Please take good care L&P, and do whatever you need to help with the anxiety now. Don't hold back from asking for help.

njgal480 posted 12/7/2013 10:36 AM

My heart breaks for you.

Do you have family or friends that you could turn to?

You have so much to deal with. Do you have someone to help you with the children?

Calling the mid wife is a good idea but please do reach out for more help.

HardenMyHeart posted 12/7/2013 10:46 AM

(((Lostandpregnant)))

I'm having a lot of anxiety, and not doing so well.

The following website has some guided imagery podcasts from Kaiser Permanente that may be helpful with the anxiety and sleep issues:
https://members.kaiserpermanente.org/redirects/listen/

ETA: There is also a podcast for Pregnancy and childbirth.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 10:48 AM, December 7th (Saturday)]

Secrets Kept posted 12/7/2013 11:02 AM

Sending hugs & strength your way.

And yes, please tell your midwife about your whole situation. She may know of other resources available out there to help you.

Get word out in you community, through a church, schools, etc. Not about WH leaving & all that. It just needs to be known that you are alone & will soon have 7 children to care for.

I would jump at the chance to help someone like you in my community if I knew about it. I would gladly volunteer a few hours here & there to help with babies, cleaning, or the older children. So please get the word out.

Take care of yourself, sweetie. We are all here for you.

whichwaysup posted 12/7/2013 11:43 AM

LaP,
I'm so sorry today's not a good day. With the hormones & holidays, it just doesn't get any worse.
Talk openly to your midwife & dr.'s. At my last appointment they informed me of the medications that are safe for us stressed out, anxious, & depressed expectant moms. While I opted not to take anything yet, I know that if it comes down to the welfare of my baby I will have to make that choice. If you really can't cope right now, it's a matter of benefits out weighing the risks.
Sending all the love & light I have left!

Jeaniegirl posted 12/7/2013 12:10 PM

((( L&P ))) Please do as everyone is advising and 'reach out' for help. Start with the midwife about help as your babies are so very important. You are too.

I am quite sure there are several really strong women (and men!) here on this forum that would LOVE to have that ass-wipe H of yours in a small room for just ONE hour. We'd have him whimpering like the little bitch he is.

YOU are valuable as a person, as a mom - and do not forget it. Don't talk to HIM, he's causing your anxiety.

Concentrate on YOU and the kids and the unborn babies. You CAN do it.

Skan posted 12/7/2013 13:10 PM

(((hugs))) Give your midwife a call, explain the situation, and have her check you. Since she's plugged into the community, ask her if there is someone that she can think of that might be available to watch your children for a couple of days a week. She may know of someone who can help with your special needs child as well. But most of all, get yourself checked. (((hugs)))

myowndystopia posted 12/7/2013 19:21 PM

Hey L&P- saw you just posted on another thread so I wanted to check on you as well. I know today was one of those difficult days for you. Hope you are feeling stronger now!