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Divorce/Separation :
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 hopeandchange (original poster member #33287) posted at 2:54 PM on Sunday, December 8th, 2013

Why, two and one half years post DDay and on the verge of D being finalized, do I wake up dreaming about WW's AP? "Holiday cards arrive and one is from her AP" and then his name and image refuse to leave my head space. Ugh! And no, he did not send a holiday card - that was just the dream.

Looking forward to a peaceful existnce, someday.

H&C

BH (me, 50)
WS (her, 48)
Divorced!
3 wonderful teens
Heading for Happiness

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:43 PM on Sunday, December 8th, 2013

I hope you can shake off the dream AND the invasive thoughts, honey. ((((H&C))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 6:58 PM on Sunday, December 8th, 2013

(((HandC))) may you find a bit of peace today and forget the dream.

[This message edited by IrishLass518 at 12:58 PM, December 8th (Sunday)]

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 7:42 PM on Sunday, December 8th, 2013

I'm struggling today too.

No advice to give, just hugs and mojo that all of us get through this effing holiday in one piece!

Did you do the SI Christmas card exchange? If so then you should be receiving enough glitter to blot out that bad dream.

((H&C))

Hugs to you

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords

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sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 8:08 PM on Sunday, December 8th, 2013

I am 3 1/2 years past D-day, and once in a while I have a dream about XWH, and it ruins my day.

D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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