What, did I pass on my trust, gullibility, desire to completely believe in others to my DS?
Well, at first glance, I should hope so. But a bit of personal vermilitude might be in order.
My belief in the goodness of people has certainly changed. There are many who take advantage and are selfish as the proverbial day is long. But there are many who are deeply caring. The people I love close to me, not many, but a few, are caring and deeply loving. People with whom I work are caring, incredibly smart human beings.
Thing is, one can love and care, but when The Signs are there... wake up and smell the burning carpet. It stinks.
My DS's girlfriend got new job, then adult, disabled brother who was abandoned by both parents, came to live with them. The GF stopped communicating with me. Didn't want anyone to come to her school graduation, even tho we'd talked of a party. She is out late, overnight, doesn't come home when expected. Keeps saying that boss asks her at last minute to stay over, or to do more work. Got new phone number recently. Told everyone 'cept DS that her Bro would be living with them for at least a year if not permanently; DS only found out when firehouse colleagues said something. She has refused to allow me or F-Nuttz to help find a case manager for the Bro, even tho all he does for past two months is sit on sofa all day and play games. Sweet young man, but desparately needs help.
I am suspicious of course. Old desire to do detective work rearing its ugly heads. I know I have to say something soon. I waited to call the F-Nuttz's GF's partner, and was sorry I did.
But this is much harder, impossible to say how hard. DS has lost in love dept many times, been hurt, and drinks, suffers from depression.
Now what? I actually feel physically ill.