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Topic: Question for lawyer

Eyeofthetiger
♀ 40359
Member # 40359

Posted: 2:10 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013

So STBX and I have come up with our separation agreement (this is needed to file jointly for divorce in our state).

We have agreed on everything and his dad has written up the agreement in a legal fashion.

I have a meeting with a lawyer tomorrow to make sure the agreement is fair and I am not missing anything.

I am trying to come up with a list of questions to ask while I am there.

Any suggestions?

XWH left 6/2013
DDay 8/19/2013
Divorce final 7/14/2014
False reconciliation 6/15-8/15
DDay 2 8/29/15

Posts: 178 | Registered: Aug 2013

devistatedmom
♀ 24961
Member # 24961

Posted: 3:01 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013

Make sure you covered retirement accounts, college for any kids, car insurance for any kids, how kid expenses will be split, if one of you is keeping the house, or if it's being sold, that everything is worded correctly, how holidays with the kids will be handled, how debt will be split, that you are both off the other's cc cards as of NOW...that's off the top of my head.

Mainly, since you have already written it up, it's to make sure the legal jargon is correct. You don't want the other able to go back on the other 5 years down the road.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5896 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada

hopeandchange
♂ 33287
Member # 33287

Posted: 5:16 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013

Child support payment to you.
Additional child support to pay for activities, lessons, events, clothing, automobile and auto expenses when your kids are of driving age
Medical insurance and copays
Spousal support
Medical insurance for you
Split of retirement assets and retirement contributions in future years
Home maintenance
Religous school fees
College savins
Life insurance policy on him to cover al of the above obligations in the event he dies

BH (me, 50)
WS (her, 48)
Divorced!
3 wonderful teens
Heading for Happiness

Posts: 411 | Registered: Sep 2011

Lost15
♀ 40898
Member # 40898

Posted: 7:12 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013

Looks like most everything has been listed. Make sure the life insurance is included, I never thought about it until a friend mentioned it. Good Luck!

me(BS)-34 him(WS)-32 DS-15
Married 15 years
Blindsided with divorce 07-12-13
DD-08-1-13 OW-40ish,married 20 yrs, with 4 kids she abandoned
Divorcing and trying to move one tiny step forward at a time.
Divorced: Jan 27,2015 (Ds 16th BDay)He rem

Posts: 118 | Registered: Oct 2013

Eyeofthetiger
♀ 40359
Member # 40359

Posted: 8:36 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013

Thanks all.

Big step. Very sad, scared, nervous, resentful. No sleeping tonight apparently

XWH left 6/2013
DDay 8/19/2013
Divorce final 7/14/2014
False reconciliation 6/15-8/15
DDay 2 8/29/15

Posts: 178 | Registered: Aug 2013

Topic Posts: 5

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