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User Topic: Why do I have to go to courthouse & pay?
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I keep reading here about how y'all get your final, official decrees in the mail. Why not me? How come I have to go to the courthouse (PITA) and pay (PITA) and wait (PITA) to have the clerk make official copies of the documents for me? I've been divorced over a month and I have no official paperwork yet. Haven't been able to change my name, nothing.


Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
♀ 34146
Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hopefully this will be your last hurdle.

I also had to go to the courthouse and pay for copies. Some states make it easier than others.

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

Posts: 4471 | Registered: Dec 2011
♀ 39193
Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What I (and XWH) got in the mail was just a very vague notice from the court stating that the judgment had been entered, and the date it was recorded. It also shows the case number that was assigned to us.

In order to get a legal copy, for name change etc, I have to request it from the court and pay something like 28 cents per page. I haven't done it yet but the clerk told me I can request it over the phone at any time. Just call with the case number and a credit/debit card. They charge for the pages and the postage and send it to you certified mail. Of course I could walk in and get it too but since the courthouse is the other end of the county 45 mins away (and near where XWH and OW live) I'll just do it by mail.

You might call and see if your county has a similar over the phone method.

Good luck!

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords

Posts: 1857 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
♀ 26071
Member # 26071
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My attorney paid when she filed the final paperwork so it came out of my retainer. Then she sent a copy to me.

D-Day: 6/5/09, drunken ONS on business trip, confessed immediately, transparent, remorseful but emotionally clueless
M 11 years, 3 kids
4/12 Tried to R for 3 years, have decided to D
12/31/12 D final

Posts: 542 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: PacNW
♀ 20152
Member # 20152
Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also live in one of those states where you have to pay for copies. Hell, they don't even TELL YOU when the decree is granted - you have to go online and research your docket number just to get confirmation, and even THEN they're vague about it - it doesn't say "divorce granted" or "decree final" or anything, just "ENTERED x/x/xx". Thanks so much, guys - so helpful. NOT!

BS (me):44 WS (him):42
Married 3.5 years, together 5.5
D-Day #1 - 2/10/16
D-Day #2 - 2/20/16
D-Day #3 - 5/27/16, different woman
Separated 6/3/16
H is asking for R. I don't know what I want.

Posts: 722 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: The Chesapeake Bay
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All of the fees for my divorce were included in the amount my attorney quoted.

For those of you considering D, you might ask this question when you interview attorneys.

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25302 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
♀ 40229
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to go and pay too! Sucks!

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 4379 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
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