"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 12/9/2013 00:04 AM

PENNSYLVANIA — A newly-married couple from North Carolina is accused of killing a man just for the thrill of it.

Police said Elytte and Miranda Barbour -- married just three weeks ago -- lured a 42-year-old man with a Craigslist sex ad and then stabbed him 20 times and strangled him.

They had just moved to Pennsylvania from Dunn, N.C.

They told police they just wanted to kill someone together.

The last number on the victim's phone led police to the Barbours.

"They had tried to kill other individuals together, and this happened to be one that actually worked," said Chief Stephen Mazzeo.

Police said Miranda picked the victim up at a mall while her husband hid under a blanket in the back seat.

They said they had a prearranged signal so he would know it was time to kill the victim.

LeopoldB posted 12/9/2013 00:29 AM

Another good reason to avoid the mall at this time of year.

IrishLass518 posted 12/9/2013 00:33 AM

I think it's the looking for sex on Craigslist that should be avoided. Can you even imagine the pain and betrayal if the man who was murdered was married? Unbelievable

hemademesingle posted 12/9/2013 04:58 AM

I had read this article the other day,

The murdered man was married, I pray for his wife and family. I hope he was insured, so his family will not also suffer financially

To find out your spouse has been unfaithful, at the time of finding out they are dead, would be horrifying, I can't even imagine all the unanswered questions that she must have. To have it so public, would be humiliating

confused615 posted 12/9/2013 06:33 AM

I saw this yesterday and triggered for the first time in a very long time. The age of the victim is the same age WH was while he was using craigslist, and the age of the woman is the age range WH was targeting.

This could have been MY husband. On dday, I told him what he had done was so very dangerous..that he not only risked his life, but the mine and the kids as well. He could have been robbed and killed..they could have taken his license and continued to his home, where the kids and I would have been, alone and unaware. He told me "that would never happen." I told him he was taking risking a whole lot on assumption..and Hey!!?? Didn't he also assume he wouldn't get caught? how'd that work out for ya, buddy?

ASS!

So..I saw this yesterday, and he must have heard me gasp(I had just read he had a wife), because he came over and asked me what I was reading. I just got up and walked away..he read it...and told me he was sorry, he was stupid and reckless and selfish back then, and that he was ashamed. (GOOD! ) Then he spent the rest of the evening taking care of me. (Oh the difference between a remorseful FWH and an unremorseful, selfish WS!)

My heart goes out to his wife. I found out because he left his secret email account open...and the first thing I read was the brand new message from craigslist, letting him know his ad had been placed..and they were kind enough to provide the ad for me. The trauma and shock were instant. But..at least he came home. I got the "privilege" of confrontation,answers,remorse,etc. This poor BW won't have that. I can't imagine healing without any answers at all.

SisterMilkshake posted 12/9/2013 07:37 AM

And they will continue to do this on Craigslist because it "Won't happen to me!"

How many murders now are directly related to Craigslist? Many!

Tred posted 12/9/2013 08:27 AM

"Won't happen to me!"

That was what my wife thought. I am still horrified at what she exposed herself and our family to by meeting strange men on the internet for sex. She didn't even know them - she thought she did, but she only knew the persona they showed her. It won't happen to them until it does. I feel for this man's family - his poor wife must be in shock.

thebighurt posted 12/9/2013 12:12 PM

This could have been xpos too! When I learned what he had been doing, I called his doctor and told that I was concerned, not only about diseases (he refused to use condoms on his "dates" and I KNEW *he* would never ask to be tested and tell why), but about his safety too. I doubt the doctor believed me.

I can't imagine finding out the way this BW did, but it could have been me too. One ad he was interested in was a man looking for men to have sex with his wife so he could watch!! That could leave him open to almost any scenario.

(((Confused615))) I'm glad he saw that and may now realize how much danger he and you could have been in.

edited for a typo

[This message edited by thebighurt at 12:14 PM, December 9th (Monday)]

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 12/9/2013 13:21 PM

It's so scary! I posted this because I know we have people here dealing with this. Well, maybe not this, exactly, but the CL part.

We DO have members who found out after their spouses died. It's sad because there's no getting answers to questions, no way of reaching closure- on TOP of grieving the lost spouse.

Nature_Girl posted 12/9/2013 13:30 PM

I read that yesterday or the day before on CNN. It triggered me because my ex was on cheating websites looking for anonymous hookups, and it triggered me because so many here have spouses/partners who have also been involved in the same thing.

I shudder to think of our collective exposure to murderers & sadistic pedophiles. Access to our spouses equals access to us and our children.

Crushed1 posted 12/9/2013 14:20 PM

OMG...this gave me chills all over, even my scalp is crawling. Some scary psychos are out there!

Rainbows posted 12/9/2013 15:41 PM

This was really triggering for me because I think Craigslist can be extremely dangerous.

My (literally) crazy Ex put ads up on Craigslist right after our S pretending to be me looking to hook-up with strangers.

I found out about it when my cell phone started blowing up with texts from numbers I didn't know. He gave out my phone number, work address and sent pictures of me. One man (recently out of jail) actually showed up at my office.

I filed a police report and it's under investigation, but reading this gave me chills.

(Sorry didn't mean to t/j with my tale)

Eudaimonia posted 12/9/2013 15:52 PM

I guess I have no business assuming anything about what anyone thinks, but why isn't this kind of thing blatantly OBVIOUS to people? I really, really do not get it. How are so many people so willing to interact at all with these C/L people, let alone have sex with them? I'm so sorry, I really do not understand.

WH is sticking to his "I may have cybered/phoned/emailed, etc C/L people, but when I was actually driving out to meet one of the men, I got scared and came home." BS. He did hookup with these kinds of psychos when he was married to his ex-wife (of course I did not know this when I married him), so why on earth would he suddenly get scared now??!! I'm so sick of this BS story from him. The guy in this article could EASILY have been him. No question. How can people be so stupid?

That poor wife of his. I hope she finds us here for support.