No advice, but wanted you to know you were heard and that I agree about family.
But my experience with my XILs is much different. He went from taking me with him to taking slut the very next time they got together, which had been every week!
I have heard little or nothing in almost a year from XILs and the last contact was initiated by me with one my age who has, or rather, HAD always been my friend. Crickets on both sides since.