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User Topic: Such Peace!!
♀ 20082
Member # 20082
Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For anyone who has been following my story, I have been waiting to meet with the session of my church to discuss my next was VERY important for me to have the backing of the church if I filed for divorce. Of course things have been so horrifying since WH came back home (especially with the threats to try to get custody of DD) that I had decided to do it no matter what...I mean...I cant live like this, and I shouldnt have to.

I met with the session tonight, and they told me to cut and run...and that the church would help me in any way possible, even financially if I need it (if WH craps out on finances again).

I SO needed to hear that...and now, I have SUCH PEACE in my heart about my decision to divorce him...I know in my gut that I did everything I possibly could to make it work and that, at this point, I am free to let go of this asshole and move on to whatever comes next.

I know that I am about to have a fight to the finish with WH with this divorce, but I am emotionally ready now...I can do this...

And so I did...I filed for divorce at 4pm today.

Say your prayers that I dont get one of the attorneys who automatically assign joint custody...I'm going to need them, since I apparently have terrible luck

Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house, fun, fun.

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, December 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


When I went to my pastors & senior lay leaders in my church & told them what was happening, they were 100% behind me. I know the relief & peace you're talking about. It made ALL the difference in the world to me to finally, FINALLY have my faith/church help hold me up.

Peace out, sister.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
♀ 16958
Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 12:44 AM, December 10th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations. Yes it feels good to have that external validation that you did and gave all you could. Hopefully you will get a great judge and all will proceed well.

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!

Posts: 949 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
Topic Posts: 3

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