Thanks for the replies - nice of you to have been wondering how I was getting on marathonwaseasy - hope things are OK with you.
You're both right that although I kind of feel like it is 'dealt with' for now that won't necessarily last so I need to make sure I bring it up if I have anything I want to talk about.
Last time we had a proper chat about things was when I was still quite upset and so was he so I think we probably do need to revisit things and see how we are both feeling about the situation right now. Since our last chat things have just become more back to normal just through spending time together rather than discussions.
The only thing I kind of miss - which I feel bad about - is that power I felt immediately afterwards where he was creeping around wanting to make me dinner and cups of tea and I could get away without doing much around the house as he was so glad to show his remorsefulness! Although the reason behind it was horrible, it was nice to be made to feel like I was being taken care of where usually I would be the one preparing dinner etc.
But that kind of thing is something we are discussing in MC - we have to make time each week to discuss what is important to us and how we want the other person to show that they love us. We are supposed to have 20 minutes each per week where we can ask the other person to do something for us. Right now I just want him to sit down with me and discuss what we are buying everyone for Christmas so it isn't all left to me as usual! But will try to think of something a bit more romantic :-)