I have these damning, horrificly graphic emails that, if I really wanted to, could send to his grown children (with whom I am very close) but it would most likely hurt them more than I would like.....there is no more trust....I can't decide whether to give him another chance, and would welcome any thoughts from the group...I am still reeling and in emotional agony.
Infidelity is devastating. Only someone who has been through it can understand how profound and terrible a blow it is.
Don't tell his kids - it won't help you or they in anyway.
What you need is to get away from the drama for a while and focus on healing. Vengence, anger . . . these are all just and normal emotions . . . but they are not going to help you.
It is way too early to know if you can or should stay with him (though eeeww, what you describe makes my skin crawl). Don't try to figure out your future. Spend some time just healing.
You just took a major emotional blow. You can't make decisions right now. I'm glad you found your way here - you will get support and advice.
You are in for a bad time, but it will get better - promise.
I wouldn't trust a word he's saying.