Sometimes memories honestly due fade over time, so as frustrating as that may be, you truly may only be able to recall so much.
I think if that's the case you both will have to sort through the facts/memories you can recall.
Stay consistent and focused...you are making really good progress
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
I had an on/off lta fo (I think) about 3 years. I had a terrible time trying to come up with a time line. I couldn't come up with it consecutively, I just got as much detail as I could come up with out there. Dates and times just blurred together for me. I made a very honest and very determined effort to give him everything he wanted. If I came up with something new I let him know. I brought it up often on my own.
I made it my business to let him know what was going on in my mind and to try to make sure he knew everything I knew about all of it. That is the best I can do. I think his gut tells him I'm being open, transparent, and honest about it.
He has been okay with this. I will always share anything new I remember with him unless he ever tells me to stop.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
I know that pain of telling her you love her enough to respect her decision. So scary and gut wrenching.
I hope and pray for the best for both of you.
Best of luck to you.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:30 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)]