She said she is sad, she said "Is this the best I deserve? A man that cheats on me?" Then she tried to think of some positive things about me and us. I just feel like she's really down in the dumps and don't know how to give her a boost.
Been feeling really insecure about our future the last few days but I'm trying hard to put it aside and take care of her. I don't know if I should leave her alone or just call to listen. (She's not much of a talker)
Just tonight I asked her if she wanted to know what I'm up to all the time, I'd be happy to tell her without needing reciprocity. She said "I don' think that will help". I said no one thing will help, it will be all the little things together.
The sex we have had has been great, but she did just tell me tonight that lately all she can think about is me with the OW when she starts thinking of having sex with me. From what you said, this is part of the damage I have done.
2002/3 (him) EA
Tog. 14 yrs, Marr. 13 and counting!
[This message edited by stupidgurl at 10:44 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)]
She now believes I'm in this for the long haul. She said as much in MC not too long ago. I think she has been surprised by the person that has shown up and is slowly starting to believe he is here to stay. I express that I want no other than her physically and emotionally, it's all in her hands. I support her in any way I can.
[This message edited by pointofnoreturn at 12:53 PM, December 11th (Wednesday)]
Treat her the way you want to be treated. You want her to show she's committed to R? You should show her - sincerely - that you are committed to R. Don't isolate yourself…that only creates more distance and opportunity for her to be filling in the blanks. Talk to her, ask her what is on her mind. Share with her what is on yours. Break down the walls between you guys.
I give her the space when she asks for it but I am always there when she needs me, no matter what.