Just more focusing on the positive, like another poster advised me in my recent thread? Is that it (as hard as it is to do), and the passing of time?
He asked me to stop and feed the cats because he'll be away. When I was there, I (again on the damn table) saw the business card of the ship captain/chaplain that married us. I thought hm, how weird, I have not seen that guys name in x yrs since the wedding. Then while I was there, his gram told me he's on an effing cruise. We got married on a cruise, his idea, his first and only cruise, took all our friends and families. He's now on the same ship, sailing out of the same port, with the new gf. He's moving in with her starting jan 1. False R ended mid August.
I'm sure none of that even resonates with him, that just a few yrs ago he was marrying someone else on that ship.
I'm here, trying to finish up paying off the marital debt on my cc, budgeting every dollar to pay my atty for the D, wondering if I really should have spent that 70 dollars I saved to spend nye with my BFF, and he's going on a cruise.
I'm really trying for mental nc, focusing on good things in my life, but this hurts. Why a cruise, why that ship? To me, it's super weird, I'd stay away from a cruise. But as I said above I guess it's just about vacation and fun, not about that.
I feel like I've read about this, WHs that do the same or similar things as they did in their marriage. Why? And how does that not bother you?
Ugh. Hoping tomorrow is a better day.