Has anyone kept their family intact, despite deciding that As (or in my case, year of false R) was a deal-breaker? In other words, if divorce isn't an option, what are the possibilities?
For many reasons (mostly children - special needs etc.) I just can't face divorce or even kicking him out right now.
But I feel the year of false R was a dealbreaker.
I have told him that eventually we will need to divorce. But for now he can stay as a friend, housemate, and coparent. He is a great father. We get along well. He treats me with kid gloves and is grateful to still be here. Probably trying to hoover me. Clearly holding out hope that I will change my mind.
So my questions are:
Has anyone faked it for the kids for any length of time?
For how long?
How did you manage your own need/the spouse's need for romantic/sexual connection if you didn't have it with each other?
Did you WS accept it nicely at the beginning and then become abusive later? (My fear.)
Has anyone found they detached enough to develop a companionate (in name only) marriage that allowed each person to develop their own relationships.
How can that possibly work?
Thanks.