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iwillNOT (original poster member #40605) posted at 10:15 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
Well, it has taken me a while to get here, but my WH and I have finally committed to R! Actually, he has wanted it all along, but I have been balanced on the fence. It's been four months of watching his actions, processing through the hemorrhaging-pain-continuously-everywhere stage, checking and checking and checking again...
I finally feel comfortable making the commitment to work on our marriage and move forward from here. I still have bad days and am still riding the roller coaster, and I know that will continue for some time. But, I feel happy with this decision. Today at MC we talked about me being ready and about my requirements for R. All went well, so...onwards!
[This message edited by iwillNOT at 7:13 PM, December 11th (Wednesday)]
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
TheAmazingWondertwin ( member #40769) posted at 10:32 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
That's wonderful news! I am so happy to hear that you took your time and made certain It was what you wanted.
It sounds like you are in a good place.
Welcome fellow poster!!
Just call me Wonder
If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
The axe "forgets"- the tree remembers.
Divorced and super good with tha
2 DS- 15 and 16
DDay 1- 07-24-2013
DDay 2- June something or other 2017
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 12:49 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
unfound ( member #12802) posted at 1:20 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
welcome.
ka-mai
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Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 2:57 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Welcome! I'm happy that you're here!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
iwillNOT (original poster member #40605) posted at 3:55 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Thanks guys! I am happy to be moving forward, finally! And scared too, if I am honest. Lots to risk.
I choose to try. I hope he proves to me that it was the right decision.
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 5:02 AM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
I am happy for you and your H. Welcome!
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 4:10 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Congratulations!
It can be frightening, but any risk is.
Just go slow, continue to talk together and mend fences.
Listen to your gut, know when you need something it's ok to ask.
And always be true and good to you.
We are all here, there will be bumps, but it can lead to a wonderful new life.
(((hugs)))
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:26 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Welcome and good luck ((HUGS))
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:29 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Welcome to the bumpy neverending process of R. we are all here for each other.
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
iwillNOT (original poster member #40605) posted at 8:15 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Thanks for the welcome and all the kind words 
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
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