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User Topic: oh effing hell
♀ 37845
Member # 37845
Default  Posted: 1:38 AM, December 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH and I had a nice conversation earlier today and he told me he'd call later. He went out after work for "holiday drinks" with people from his office.

He never called. I finally called him at 11:30. He didn't answer. We are currently apart due to travel. I'm flying home this afternoon. Tomorrow is our youngest's birthday. Of course I can't sleep now. AGAIN.

I'm sure he got drunk and passed out and didn't call. If it were a one time thing, it wouldn't be that big of a deal. But really? How long am I really going to deal with this crap? Do I really leave him with BOTH my kids' birthdays coming up as well as Christmas?

This is just ridiculous. I should probably stop posting in R because obviously this is not working. I feel like I'm running and running on this stupid hamster wheel and expecting it to suddenly turn in a different direction. I guess it's my fault in the end for expecting something different. UGH.

BS (Me): 39
WH: 44
2 beautiful, precious daughters: 5 & 3
Found out early Aug. 2012, separated 2/4/13, in R (?) since 7/2013.

Posts: 221 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: MD
♀ 16024
Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 5:33 AM, December 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm sorry your WH is not accepting the gift of R that you are offering him. Have you thought about doing the 180?


Do not just slay your demons, dissect them and find what they've been feeding on.

Posts: 46440 | Registered: Sep 2007
♀ 37190
Member # 37190
Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, December 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


So very sorry you are in this position. It's so hard to admit they are throwing away the gift we are offering.

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 771 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
♀ 30024
Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, December 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This doesn't sound like a WH who is seriously committed to reconciliation. I do think it is time to implement the 180, also. I am so sorry. (((VeryUncertain)))

BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4-7yrs. /fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 11488 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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