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User Topic: I year in what have I learned
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Default  Posted: 5:20 AM, December 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After 1 year of MC and IC I've learned 2 major things . My WW was lonely and loved the attention the om would give her . I've also learned that my WW although remorseful and working with mc and ic she will not admit she had the A because she was selfish and only thought of herself . She still needs to find other reasons that caused her to have the A. Lesson 2 is I have to worker harder on myself . I was devastated like most of you but I learned I can't allow my ww actions to dictate how I feel. That's my thoughts

married 28 yrs
Kid's -2
A- several
DD- 12-10-12
Starting recovery

"I don't understand the world today I don't understand what she needs I gave her everything she threw it all away" tom petty

Posts: 228 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Los Angeles
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Default  Posted: 5:31 AM, December 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Those are all very valuable lessons! I think you hit the most important one on the nose. All you can control is you-your thoughts and your behaviors. Work on your own recovery and the outcome will be what it is. You'll be healthier for it, and you will continue to be able to do what you need to do for you.

Good luck!


"If you want to know who your tribe is, speak your truth, then see who sticks around. Those are the people who get a spot in your blanket fort." -Nanea Hoffman

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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, December 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like Lesson 2! It's something I've come to realize lately as well (and I'm also 1 year out)

Me: BS
Him: WH
Dday: Jan 4, 2013

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