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EvenKeel posted 12/12/2013 08:26 AM

h0peless post got me thinking about IRL crushes (ie not movie stars).

Anyone remember that eposide of Brady Bunch (HOW OLD AM I??????), where Jan has a crush on her dentist and she is seeing stars in his eyes and his teeth literally sparkled????

I thought that was BS. I mean, I get giddy, butterflies, nervous, etc but never fireworks blinding me, etc.

WELLLL......One of my kiddo's coaches stopped to tell me something one day and I literally had a Jan Brady moment! The man's blue eyes were literally memorizing and glistening. I instantly thought of Jan in that dentist chair all whoozie.

I have dealt with this coach for a good 10 years and NEVER had reactions to him. I find it all very embarassing. I mean, I never told a soul but when I see him now; I can feel a secret blush overtaking me.

Anyone else ever had that Jan Brady experience?!?!

nowiknow23 posted 12/12/2013 08:40 AM

Yes. I've had this experience. There's a place where I rent equipment (like a power washer or a chain saw). When my basement flooded this past spring, I rented a pump and a powerful fan. And the owner, who I've rented from dozens of times, suddenly made my stomach do flips.

I made my DS return the equipment. I didn't trust myself to form coherent sentences.

nutmegkitty posted 12/12/2013 08:44 AM

YES!

there is an IT guy here who literally took my breath away when I first saw him. I mean, I went weak kneed and got butterflies something fierce. He is funny, very smart, and just quirky enough to be charming. I still think he's adorable but the crush has faded. But for a while there I was all giddy and giggly and madly crushing on him. It was quite fun.

EvenKeel posted 12/12/2013 08:46 AM

Ohhhhh - a man with access to power washers and chain saw, etc. I would swoon too - I sooo need that stuff!!!!

But that is totally me as well. I don't think I have managed to mutter more than one syllable to this guy since. I am afraid of what would fall out of my face.

He probably thinks I went from being a friendly mom to a real 8itch cause I no longer talk.

Nutmeg - I am glad you got past the giddy part....an IT guy is a good person to have on your side!

[This message edited by EvenKeel at 8:48 AM, December 12th (Thursday)]

Crescita posted 12/12/2013 09:45 AM

Ah memories. I never even got up the nerve to talk to him. He was so ridiculously handsome I called him the Adonis. He rode the same bus as me during a summer program when I was in college. Tall, lean, black hair, grey-blue eyes, and my favorite man outfit ever, black on black stripe long sleeve shirt with dark jeans and black slip on dress shoes. It so happens I’ve, ahem, encouraged all future boyfriends to buy such clothing.

meaniemouse posted 12/12/2013 17:08 PM

A professor of mine in grad school. What actually made it better is that I had met him once before and thought he was a huge, arrogant asshole. I had to take his class, it was my last one in that department and I ended up enrolling late because I was hoping to find a way to get out of it.

I was at the second class meeting and he made me introduce myself because everyone else had done it the week before. I just did the standard, "hi, I'm meaniemouse" and a few other basics. He looked at me and said, "nothing else?" That was when I was separated from my ex after I caught him cheating the first time. So I said, "Yeah, it is, unless you want to hear about my divorce." He burst out laughing, as did the rest of the class and all of a sudden, I was HOOKED. Everyone in the class had to give a big presentation and since I late enrolled, I got the very, last spot, end of the semester, after every single other student had given theirs. He made us meet with him individually to go over our presentation and also gave us a write up of his thoughts.

When I got mine I was moved to tears. He told me I was a wonderful speaker and that my presentation was one of the best he'd ever seen in all his years of teaching grad students. It was absolutely the best thing that could have happened to me at that time; a guy who was a major player in our field recognizing me for doing a good job. I still have that note, it's one of the most precious things I have.

Thanks, EvenKeel, for reminding me of a really wonderful time in my life.

DeadMumWalking posted 12/12/2013 17:21 PM

Not sure about 'best ever', but have had a few:

- a particular football (ie, soccer) coach that has trained all 3 of my boys (among other trainers and at different times), he's almost exactly my age

- the guy who comes to fix my gas heater, prob around 20 years younger than I am. Can't wait for the heater to break down again

PhoenixRisen posted 12/12/2013 18:26 PM

Wasn't it Marcia? With Dr Vogal? (How old am I?)

Yes, my landscaper. He has the body of an Adonis
One humid summer afternoon, I looked out my kitchen window to see his crew working on a major project.
He was shirtless....
Driving a bulldozer....
Tanned....
Muscular...
Sweaty...
O.M.G

I almost got my camera out ...almost

Weatherly posted 12/12/2013 19:14 PM

There used to be a guy I knew, he was really good looking, a soldier/fireman. I met him at a bookstore, and we sat on the floor between the shelves looking at books about WWII aircraft.

He liked me, but, I had such a big crush on him, it made me stupid. Like, i could not form sentences around him. Once he called to ask me why I wouldn't go out with him, and I hung up on him so I could text him my explanation. And, yes, I told him "I won't go out with you because you are so good looking I cannot form coherent sentences when you are around. So, our only date option is the movies, and I don't like movies."

IrishLass518 posted 12/12/2013 23:28 PM

Wow, I don't know that I really ever had a best crush. Now I feel like I have missed out. I would go get one but I figure this isn't the type of thing the stock on the Wal mart shelf.
I sear I think my last, biggest, only crush was on xWH before he was taken by the pod people.
Yup, my life is that sad.

MovingUpward posted 12/13/2013 06:02 AM

I've not had that Jan Brady experience. Although I've had the "Oh my nose" experience a couple times.

lynnm1947 posted 12/13/2013 11:21 AM

A guy named Peter in my first year of university (he was third year) used to take my breath away. Years later, a male friend of mine married Peter's sister. I went to the wedding and (swoon) Peter asked me to dance. We being by then both happily married, I confessed (as we twirled around the dance floor), "You know, first year, I had such a crush on you." And he said, ""You know, I had such a crush on you, too."

Drat! Hate when that happens!

About fifteen or so years ago, I was introduced to a man and as we shook hands, I got the biggest jolt of something or other. It wasn't static electricity because it wasn't the season, but I know HE felt it too because as I felt it, I saw his eyes spring open in surprise. Weird.

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 11:22 AM, December 13th (Friday)]

gardenparty posted 12/13/2013 21:16 PM

I was dancing on a table during Carnaval while in Brasil (not professionally, just in the spirit of the party) and I noticed a guy watching me from across the room. I was so mesmerized by him that I almost fell off the table. Whatever it was about him I was totally and instantly in want of him.

JenniMay posted 12/13/2013 21:59 PM

Oh...no doubt, the boy next door while growing up. He was 6 years older than me, but I was totally, head over heels in love with him since the first day I laid eyes on him (I was 8 years old the first time I saw him). I became best friends with his younger sister & our families were very close for many, many years.

I can still close my eyes or hear a song from the 80's & it can take me right back to that time of my life...or remembering finding some excuse to go hang around where he was playing basketball, washing the car or waxing his surfboard in his garage.

We dated for several years once I was old enough to date (and maybe did some sneaking around BEFORE I was allowed to actually date--LOL) and had a wonderful relationship. Our relationship didn't survive past my first year of college (I went away to college & he was older so he stayed in the city we grew up in). After living away from home for a year, I discovered that I wanted to experience the "college" life...unfortunately, I broke his heart & I still feel bad about it.

He passed away 2 years ago at the age of 48, leaving a wife and little girl behind. So sad, but GAWD, I loved that boy when I was young!

PhoenixRising88 posted 12/15/2013 10:03 AM

Well, I know what I want Santa to bring me... A Clay Matthew jersey.... with Clay Matthews in it!!! OMG what a hottie!!!

solus sto posted 12/15/2013 18:24 PM

I have been a quarter-inch away from in love with a friend since I met him when he was 17. We were very close--good boundaries always, even as kids (I was already with Trac-Fone), but close. And with tremendous chemistry.

He and Trac-Fone despised one another. It always perplexed me---I was a naive one.

We stopped talking when we married--boundaries and all.

(And Trac-Fone still despises him. Which is ironic.)

tesla posted 12/15/2013 18:26 PM

This guy I'm crushing on now has probably been my best crush. I've had to sit in 3 meetings with the guy where parents, administrators, and other educational professionals are present. I admit that I'm just barely following along in these meetings and I'm channeling all my energy into being able to speak coherently when I need to...shit, it takes a lot of effort around this guy. The first meeting I was sitting next to him and could hardly keep myself together!! Since then, I've intentionally put myself as far away from him as possible...he's just so damn distracting.

better4me posted 12/15/2013 20:13 PM

I'm seeing "crushes" all over the place lately...yikes Must be something in the air that is make all the menz look more attractive lately.

homewrecked2011 posted 12/15/2013 21:21 PM

My boss on my new job is cute, hilarious, quick whitted, has twinkly eyes and is HOT. I cannot do anything around this man but laugh... He laughs and says, what is so funny??? OMG it's so embarassing!!! To top it off, he and the other manager try to make our jobs fun, and play practical jokes on everyone...so it's a "laughing" environment anyway.....Unfortunately, he is married!!!! Of coarse I'm not going to go after him,,, in fact, I try to stay far away from him. I have to admit, it is so fun to realize I haven't lost my feelings for guys!!!

Now to find a single one!!!

EvenKeel posted 12/16/2013 11:34 AM

These are so fun to read!

Thanks for sharing everyone.