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PhoenixRisen posted 12/12/2013 10:04 AM

so I'm wrapping Christmas gifts and in the bottom of my wrapping container I come across a drawing from a Christmas of several years ago when we were visiting my sister.
The drawing had a doodle from one of my kids saying "mom" "dad" and their names - then BAM I'm flooded with memories of that particular Christmas when I was married and our kids had two parents at home. I can even smell the cinnamon that filled her kitchen - the memory was so strong!
Before I can stop myself I burst into tears.

My M ended over two years ago.... I thought I was settled and resigned to my new, single-mom life.... When do these triggers end?!

MovingUpward posted 12/12/2013 10:10 AM

(((hugs)))

Time and new memories will help these feelings to wane.

ISPIFFD posted 12/12/2013 10:11 AM

((((((PhoenixRisen))))))

I hate to say it, but it takes time...

nowiknow23 posted 12/12/2013 10:12 AM

((((Phoenix))))

She11ybeanz posted 12/12/2013 10:28 AM

I've been divorced 3 years as of tomorrow...and still get triggers....but they lessen over time! Promise.

((BIGHUGZ))

StillLivin posted 12/12/2013 11:58 AM

Time and new memories will help these feelings to wane.

this^^^
(((hugs)))

better4me posted 12/12/2013 12:15 PM

(((PhoenixRising)))

Holidays are the worst times for missing what "was" but really "wasn't"

broken2 posted 12/12/2013 15:05 PM

Time will help, really it will. I rarely trigger any more and if I do my next thought is how lucky I truly am to be away and gone from him.

DeadMumWalking posted 12/12/2013 17:22 PM

((((PhoenixRisen))))

persevere posted 12/12/2013 22:59 PM

This is my third Christmas post Dday - it's the best one yet but memories still hit. ((Hugs))

wontdefineme posted 12/12/2013 23:01 PM

Just keep telling yourself three to five years to work through the trauma. I had not come to SI in a while and didn't need to be here. One stupid text, which I ignored, bought me back again. I keep telling myself, three to five and the finish line gets closer every day.

Eranda posted 12/14/2013 15:07 PM

They end- believe me. I'm one of the old-timers around here and I can tell you it gets better. A LOT better.

Now when I think of things that happened back then, I don't much care anymore. I like my life now better than I did when I was married. Memories are just that- memories. Without any emotional crap to go along with it LOL.

I think of that time as just something that happened, and now it's over. Nothing more, nothing less.

You will get there.

jo2love posted 12/14/2013 17:07 PM

(((Phoenix)))

NaiveAgain posted 12/14/2013 19:50 PM

(((Phoenix))))

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