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My knee jerk reaction to be "nice"
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TheThreeYearFool posted 12/12/2013 14:48 PM
I think about the A all the time but I choose not to bring it up all the time. Today WH and I are emailing back and forth at work and keeping it light, like we used to do before DDay.
Like he used to do with the OW before DDay.
They're giving away slices of fancy pound cake at his work, and he's going on about how delicious this almond pound cake is.
And then my doormat mentality kicks in: "I should make a pound cake for WH! That would be nice! He might like that!" That's how I've thought for years.
I need to remind myself that I can't nice WH back into being a good husband. I tried nice and it wasn't enough.
No12turn2 posted 12/12/2013 14:59 PM
Indeed. Nice guy mentality just seemed to foster this nasty side of my WW even more.
littlefoggy posted 12/12/2013 15:17 PM
This is my first reaction, too.
But then I remember that WH hasn't done anything recently to deserve anything nice.
Edited for spelling
[This message edited by littlefoggy at 3:17 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]
RealityStinks posted 12/12/2013 15:22 PM
My first reaction too, and it didn't work.
Kicking her out didn't work either. Just saw pictures of them on Facebook at the same function yesterday, and I know that no one in the room has a clue what they're doing. That may change though. Let me her file for D because I told people. Being nice and keeping it more-or-less to myself is not working.
yestopants posted 12/12/2013 18:38 PM
I understand this reaction, it's what used to do before Dday. Its hard to stop thinking of them and doing nice things. They don't deserve it though…and obviously didn't appreciate it when they had it.