If you and your spouse choose to R, the following resources will help you have a better, stronger marriage:
Never mind. I found the other thread about your thread. Even if you weren't sincere, I and the other SIers were. Life is about being vulnerable and living authentically. Thank you for teaching me that, fellow SIers!!
His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley
Love Busters by Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband by Reb Bradley