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User Topic: Triggering when helping with WH's resume
♀ 41218
Member # 41218
Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH is trying to get hired on permanently at the site where he's a contractor. I am ALL ABOARD this idea, because although he and OW don't work at the same job site they do work for the same contracting firm. To officially interview for a permanent position he needs to present them an updated resume.

Did I offer to help? Or did he ask for my assistance? I don't remember. I'm enough of a doormat/desperate enough to get him out of the contracting firm that it's entirely possible I offered. I've edited his resume as well as those of family members several times over the years.

Today he dug up an old resume to update. In the process I found that I had a more recent copy from 2011 saved. I took a look at the last saved date: 7/13/11.

Not just during the A. No, this was the day before I flew out of state to visit my parents, and he then snuck off to New Orleans on his first trip with OW. I was editing his resume for him while he was texting her about how much he looked forward to their New Orleans trip.

I feel so utterly used. He was happy to have me do the heavy lifting for him and have OW around for fun.

Once again I want to present OW with a list of chores: How about you fold his laundry? Weed the yard? Clean the litterboxes? Do the taxes?

Just had to vent.

Me - BW 36
Him - WH 41
Together 12 years, married 7
3 year LTA with former coworker
DDay 10/29/13
He says he wants to R... can I live with what he's done?

Posts: 165 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
♀ 16843
Member # 16843
Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you, and understand!

My H is always losing things. I was calling places looking for a lost item because he had to leave for a business trip at a resort. (Driving, no plane to catch!) You guessed it... she was there and they had a lovely little honeymoon in between sessions.

Vent away!!! It's good for us!

Posts: 578 | Registered: Nov 2007
♂ 41294
Member # 41294
Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I understand. I helped my WW with my resume and all I could think was that some of the stuff I found as evidence when I discovered the A was her helping him with *his* resume, so he could find a job in our town. Creeps.

On the other hand, I have his address and full job history from his resume. Hmmm.. what to do..... Nah, taking the high road. But restraining orders are a lot easier to serve when you know the person's address.

I was as nice as possible and left it at that. They will never understand our suffering. They're only focused on themselves.

Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
XBH and healing. D final March 2016
Her: Doesn't matter anymore.
DS13 Severe SN. DD11 Awesome

Posts: 1012 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
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