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AnnaKarenina posted 12/13/2013 15:29 PM

My husband tells me that sex is much better with me than during the 5 month affair (they worked together and met monthly for 2/3 evenings in a row - on different coasts most of the time - though they did talk or text every day) even though his anticipation was tremendous. He said he was always thinking about me, so he had to work to have an orgasm and the sex was not satisfying. She also told me that even though the chemistry was great, the actual sex was not. In particular, he took a really long time and even then was not always successful. I have never had that problem with him.This runs counter to everything I have ever read about affairs. Our MC buys it, but he is trying to keep us together, How likely is his (or her) version? BTW she is close to 20 years younger than him. I am asking WS for input.

steadfast1973 posted 12/13/2013 16:27 PM

My WH used the services of a "High end companion" . He said she was not attractive, and it was bad. I have no idea what her face looks like (it's blurred "to protect her identity" on her website...) I guess he had it built up in his mind...

sailorgirl posted 12/13/2013 17:04 PM

I think it's possible for sex to be bad. With H and OW, there was no creativity, no affection, no exploration.

The fact that they didn't have a passionate, wildly orgasmic affair doesn't mean less damage done to him, to me or to our marriage. Betrayal is betrayal.

steadfast1973 posted 12/13/2013 17:15 PM

To me, it's worse. He was willing to throw us away for meaningless sex. Which is never good...

Dreamland posted 12/13/2013 17:18 PM

I guess if he had it once but why go back. My H says the same thing but I call bullshit. I don't believe him otherwise he wouldn't keep going back. How embarrassing if he couldn't get it going or took so long.
They are full of shit IMO

sisoon posted 12/13/2013 18:16 PM

My W says the sex wasn't good after the first couple of sessions. Her body language and affect when she talked about the sex were congruent with what she was saying. She kept going back because she thought she was saving ow from suicide and because of the emotional aspects of her 'connection'.

Lots of BSes report their WSes say sex wasn't great. Doesn't make sense to me, but so little of her A thinking does.

AnnaKarenina posted 12/13/2013 18:42 PM

He says that he expected the sex to be good during an affair and he kept trying expecting it to improve. Can any men respond?

BrokenwingBird posted 12/13/2013 22:52 PM

My WH admitted the sex with OW was great. Our sex was lousy the last couple of years. So I actually had to drag out of him why it was great, and how we could fix our sex life, etc. He said that he always just wanted me though and just felt unwanted by me and the OW was there and seemed to want him when I didn't.

Marathonwaseasy posted 12/14/2013 01:21 AM

One of the reasons fwh was so angry with me during the A was that the sex with OW was bad and this was apparently my fault because of guilt, because he still loved me, because it couldn't compare. Messed up A thinking or what?
The real reasons by sex was bad isn't for the R forum.
But if you hate yourself you sell yourself short.

SlowUptake posted 12/14/2013 01:52 AM

Can any men respond?

By this I assume you mean male WS's.
If that's the case, then nope.


They are full of shit IMO

If you mean just male BS's then ignore this post.

If you really want an honest answer, you should ask the question in the 'I Can Relate' forum in the thread 'BS Questions for WS's'.

You'll recieve an answer from a WS that has no reason to lie to you, and has their cranium well & truly extracted from their rectum.

[This message edited by SlowUptake at 1:55 AM, December 14th (Saturday)]

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