Divorce final 2/10/14.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
cross it off the list. It gets easier. I went to the 3rd staff party as a "single."
I didn't have to pay for a plus one.
I got to visit with my friends without worrying about my spouse "fitting in."
No one embarrassed me (but me)...
I can leave whenever I am ready.
Not so bad, all in all!
Did your WS do the sulky, quiet no-one knows me thing? (or later the loud flirty disrespectful thing... ) Mine did and it sapped the enjoyment out of things like that. Embrace that you only have to look after you!
Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.
It does get a lot better. I remember my first work party as a single. I felt so uncomfortable, I went with another couple just so I wouldn't walk in alone. It was ok during the event, but I remember crying the whole way home.
The next year was much better and this year even better than that. These are my friends and people who support me. When I walk in, they say hi, hand me a drink and welcome me into their conversations.
Now I feel like anyone else who I choose to bring with me in the future better hold up and be good enough for me and my friends and co workers.
WH never really liked going out to parties, so at least I won't have to worry about "is he feeling left out, etc.". Or worse, if I happen to talk to any of the male teachers (who, I'm sorry, are not the least bit attractive), will WH think I'm showing too much interest in them.
DS (6), DS (18 months)
Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".
Status: Done like dinner
Although now that I think about it, STBX started showing his backside by quitting coming to any of my family's get-togethers about four years ago...
So...actually I've BEEN going to events by myself, up until last night they were all just family events and last night was a corporate event.
I can tell you this - my family (and friends) have been the ROCK STARS of my world through all this. I have no interest in even attempting to date anytime soon. But if and when I finally am ready to, one of the things I will not compromise on will be the guy has to be into family. Never again will I be involved with someone who tries subtly or not-to-subtly to have me all to themselves and discourages time with my family.