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Lex71 posted 12/14/2013 05:09 AM

I have short conversations with Wgf via text. Usually this is about the children and that's about it. Sometimes she will send something like 'I love you'. I find this really uncomfortable. I don't respond but I still feel bad.

Does any one else's WS/Wbf/Wgf do this??

Why?!

curiouswiz posted 12/14/2013 05:18 AM

My stbxh did it yesterday...??? Huh? Instead of good bye he said I love you and hung up. Okay. Alrighty then. Of course you do. That love just fills me to the brim. I know he loves me so much that he lives with a heroin junky half our age.

Okay, I love you...first time I've heard that in years.

jb3199 posted 12/14/2013 05:56 AM

Does any one else's WS/Wbf/Wgf do this??

Why?!

It is simply done to ease their own conscience. To help *prove* to themselves that they are not bad people.

And it is utter bullshit. Not saying that she doesn't love you, but the reason that she is saying it to you is for her peace of mind....not yours.

Sorry, friend.

[This message edited by jb3199 at 5:56 AM, December 14th (Saturday)]

stillprettyupset posted 12/14/2013 06:44 AM

I fought this mental battle with myself yesterday. I didn't respond at first either. Then, I thought about it. I do still love her despite all the horseshit and the pain she caused. So, I replied back "love you too.". It doesn't change my course of action so who cares. I don't hate her and I still have those feelings (always will) even if we divorce. So, worst case...I gave her the same confounded split answer she gives me and threw her brain into mass confusion. Best case, I am sharing my emotions and it may lead to a better relationship. Meh.

nomistakeaboutit posted 12/14/2013 06:44 AM

Sorry, friend,

I wouldn't read anything into it other than her having temporary pangs of guilt for treating you so poorly.

I read your profile. If you XWgf does love you, she has a very odd way of showing her love. Based on what she had to say about you when she didn't know you were listening (reading), she very clearly does not respect or appreciate you.

...hope you help those young kids have a fun Christmas Holiday!

steadfast1973 posted 12/14/2013 07:00 AM

She's a selfish bitch, who's been using you. He mouth may say I love you, but her actions don't.