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User Topic: The department store of love
Pass
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of all places, I think I've had a couple of "moments" in my local Walmart.

Moment #1: I needed to buy some kleenex. As I was looking through the selection, I turned to the shopper beside me and said, "It's impossible to find a manly box of kleenex."

She gave me this killer smile, and said, "Let's see what we can find for you."

As she was rummaging, and showing me some boxes, my shitty self esteem kicked in, and I felt bad for "wasting her time". I grabbed the closest box to me, said, "Here's one!" and fled.

It wasn't until I was halfway home that I realized it may have been a moment!


Moment #2: At Walmart again, I decided to have supper at their McDonalds. I happened to lock eyes with a woman in the line beside me. She said, "You have a great smile. It's really nice."

I managed to croak out, "Thanks so much. You're very kind." while grinning like an idiot. Then I buried my face in my phone so that I wouldn't have to look at her again.


Apparently, I'm not much of a closer.

So Walmart, eh? Maybe that's where I'll start spending my Saturday nights.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those sound like openers to me! Why not Walmart?

Armistead Maupin started his book series Tales of the City based on a real-life local Safeway supermarket that had become the hot pick-up spot for singles.

I look forward to your Tales from the Aisles of Walmart.


Me: BS, 40's.

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass, isn't great that you can look at those incidents and see someone was being friendly/flirting with you?

I get scared when someone does that to me. And I try to escape.

Now, I am trying to consciously just be nice back, and to tell myself the fear is irrational.

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 9:44 AM, December 14th (Saturday)]


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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finallymefirst
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow Pass.. that was the best compliment ever lol..."great smile, its really nice". Very nice indeed. If u see her again smile and say hi

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dude - you totally had moments.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dude - you totally had moments.

Thanking you for the verification, NIK! The problem is that before The Princess, I was always TOTALLY helpless around women. Had lots of female friends, but the second there was a suggestion of something else (even just in my own mind!), it would scare the hell out of me.

So now I just naturally assume that I'm seeing something that isn't there, and don't want to bother the woman in question.

Wouldn't know how to even start bothering her anyhow.

Maybe I should do a google search for "How to approach women"?


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whatever else you talk about....don't mention you are a banjo player!!!

Yeah.....you had "moments". Perhaps you are the type of guy that needs a lady to hit you on your head with a club and drag you to her cave.......................

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really? There is a store of love? Hmmm, I think I will be shopping at my local Wal mart some more.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oops, double post

[This message edited by IrishLass518 at 2:18 PM, December 14th (Saturday)]


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. All my Walmart has is a pervasive odor of urine that, inexplicably, was present even on opening day.

(You totally had moments there.)


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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Eranda
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't listen to K9, banjo players are hot


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everyone knows the banjo is the instrument of love - no Deliverance jokes, please!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Some people think everyone is hitting on them. Others seem to not notice until they are hit over the head and dragged into a cave.

You seem to fall into the latter category. Yes, these are moments.

Everyone knows the banjo is the instrument of love



I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5660 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Pass
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've never been sure about that stuff, SBB, so I'll just come right out and ask it: Are you hitting on me?


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^

There are no Walmarts in Australia. Keep your eye on Walmart, dude!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Take2
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So am I to understand that "the department store of love" has an attached "first date coffee house?"

...wait, let me rephrase. Pass, if your luck at Wallie World continues, and you bump into someone that may interest you -- you should consider asking them for an "after shopping" coffee at Micky D's. Gives you a chance to chat a little, decide if you want to ask for her number, and if not you have the "my ice cream is melting" excuse.


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Pass
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the suggestion, Take2. I'll start practicing in front of a mirror:

"Hey, baby. How about a McFlurry?"


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass, I would so fall for the McFlurry line
After, I figured out if I was being hit on.

It's been so long I wouldn't know if a guy was interested unless he gave me a power point presentation with a flow chart and even then I would still ask him if he was serious.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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Gr8Lady
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So you are a little rusty. You will get your MOJO back, and honestly the right person will appreciate you aren't a one line player.

In the meantime, the encounters made you feel good, helped ego and is a really positive thing.

The right person will appreciate you, and all the qualities thrown away by the Princess


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

Posts: 626 | Registered: Jul 2012
Pass
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Irish, there are PowerPoint presentations? Excellent.

Gr8:

The right person will appreciate you, and all the qualities thrown away by the Princess

That's a very nice thing for you to say. Thank you.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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